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Whether you’re single or seeing someone this Valentine’s Day, my new video gives you 9 romantic surprises you can do for anyone in your life to make them go weak in the knees for you.
They are subtle . . .
They are unexpected . . .
And they will make someone fall even harder for you than they already are (because why wouldn’t they be already . . . you’re adorable, aren’t you? Aren’t you! Sorry.)
Check ‘em out, friend.
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i’m a big believer in the idea that the
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things we do every day that are the more
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modest forms of
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romance are more important than the
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grand gestures we do one day a year on a
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day
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like today valentine’s day
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so here are nine subtle unexpected
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things
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you can do to be romantic with someone
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you care about
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number one surprise dessert
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delivery this was actually jameson’s one
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i’m back with jameson after a while
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of being away from him which is why i’m
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a bit giddy
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you’ve got the dinner you were planning
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to do they know you’re gonna have that
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dinner
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but then suddenly dinner’s finished
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right jameson
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doorbell goes off who’s that robber
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no dessert baron are robbers really
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ringing the doorbell
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no didn’t think that one through
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number two watch the movie
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they want to watch now this could be the
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movie that
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they haven’t seen that they really want
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to watch it could also be and sometimes
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this is an even more romantic thing a
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movie they’ve already
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seen that they really want you to watch
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you know when someone’s trying to get
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you to watch a movie it’s almost
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destined
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that just because you’re selling it to
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me i don’t want to watch it it could be
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the greatest movie ever
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but when it’s being sold to you you
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don’t want to watch it instead of
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rebelling against that
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just go yeah i’d love to and then enjoy
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it
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like have a good time with it there’s
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nothing more fun than showing someone a
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movie you love
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let your partner have that experience
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with you number three
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start a sentence with do you know one of
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my favorite things about you
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you might say you know one of my
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favorite things about you
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how much you care about the people you
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love
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you always go out of the way for the
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people that are really important to you
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and that is so beautiful i love that
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about you
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bonus points if it’s something you
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haven’t even said to them before
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because i think there’s always things
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about people that are our favorite
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things
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that we never actually consciously tell
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them
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number four text them at a time you
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wouldn’t normally text them to say
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something nice
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it could be that you just stepped out of
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the house to go on a run you saw them 10
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minutes ago
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and midway through the run you text them
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and say i love you
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i think here’s what’s interesting about
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the psychology if you
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text someone at a time that’s not
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obvious where they wouldn’t normally
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hear from you
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you can say something that’s loving but
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obvious
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you know if you just left someone five
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minutes ago for work
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and normally you wouldn’t speak to them
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until that evening but
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five minutes after you leave the house
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you say i miss you already
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you can say something that’s really
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obvious like that and it’s still going
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to have tremendous meaning because the
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context is not obvious
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when the context is obvious you have to
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be more original
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like valentine’s day telling someone i
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love you on valentine’s day
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is saying something obvious in an
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obvious context now it’s just noise
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when it’s obvious context you have to do
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something original when it’s not normal
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context the obvious becomes special
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number five do an anonymous act of
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kindness for your
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partner do something nice for your
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partner that they may not even
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necessarily thank you for because they
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don’t know you’ve done it you know it
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could be
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putting a glass of water by the side of
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the bed for them because you know
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they’re going to want it at night
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normally they do it for themselves
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you’re going to do it for them you’re
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not going to say
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i got you a glass of water by the way
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you just do it
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if they notice they notice but that’s
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not why you do it you do it because you
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love them and i actually think
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interestingly when we do little things
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like that just because we love someone
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we love them more because we’re
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investing in that person’s happiness
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number six listen out for something they
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say they
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want and then amazon prime that sucker
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the next day
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this isn’t a promo for amazon you can
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also do it at a local shop
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if you’re better than the rest of us
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don’t wait till a birthday
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don’t wait till the next time it’s an
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occasion just
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have something show up tomorrow or next
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week that they said they wanted today
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number seven you know a lot of us are
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working from home now aren’t we well
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if you happen to have the good fortune
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of working
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around your partner interrupt your
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productivity
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for a cuddle or a kiss a moment with
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your partner
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the same way that many of us are
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prepared to interrupt our productivity
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for twitter
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you know when your partner comes over
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and tries to say something to you and
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you’re like
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i’m just i’m just i’ll be
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i’ll be over in a sec and then they
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leave and probably two minutes later in
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the middle of whatever you’re doing you
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just go
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has anyone posted anything we clearly
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are prepared to interrupt our day a
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thousand times a day
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for crap why not interrupt it for
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love number eight fix up an area of the
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house
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that they use a lot it could be a
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workstation
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could be a cupboard that they use a lot
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a drawer that they store all of their
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stuff in
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tidy it up get them something a nice
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accessory for that area
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jazz it up clean it diy fix
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it do something for that area that shows
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that you’re giving love to something
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they use every day
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number nine tell them how grateful you
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are
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for something that they may not even
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realize
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you’ve noticed something they may
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mistakenly assume
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you take for granted and if you want to
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know what these things are
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look to your past relationships and ask
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yourself
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what did i argue about in those
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relationships all the time
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that i never argue about in this one
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when something goes wrong it gets lots
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of attention when something goes
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right in our existing relationship it
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may get no attention because it’s going
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right
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it’s not loud it’s not in your face as a
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problem it’s just existing as something
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that’s not a problem
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notice the things that aren’t a problem
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because they’re probably not
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problems because your partner has a
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wonderful trait if for example you have
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a difficult family
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and your partner does an amazing job of
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navigating that difficult family you
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could say to them
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thank you so much by the way for being
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such an incredible teammate
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i know that my family isn’t easy i know
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it’s got some characters
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and you do such a wonderful job of being
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kind and compassionate and just
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doing your best that moment
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is a moment that can make all of that
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effort worthwhile especially
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when someone doesn’t even necessarily
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know if you notice what they’re doing
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i think that when we give romantic
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gestures or gifts
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we should think about not just giving
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people what they need which is important
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socks for christmas is important
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we all need socks but no one really
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wants socks for christmas
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instead of give people what they need or
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only giving people what they need we
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should give them
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what they want and if you want jedi
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level
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status don’t just get them what they
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want
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get them what they don’t even know they
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want
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do for them what they don’t even know
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they want you to do for them and if you
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want clues as to what the person you
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care about wants
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pay attention pay attention to their
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goals
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what do they want to learn where do they
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want to go pay attention to their fears
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their frustrations their complaints
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pay attention to the things that spark
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joy for them
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sparking joy a concept from marie kondo
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you know that
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sweet japanese lady who goes into
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people’s houses to tidy up
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and she has them hold objects they’ll
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hold an old t-shirt
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and she says does that spark joy for you
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and if they say yes then
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they keep it and if they say no then she
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dumps it
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it’s gone i think we should ask
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ourselves do we
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as a partner spark joy for the person
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we’re with when they hold us
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do we spark joy and that’s something we
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can create
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by doing more things that create joy for
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that person
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you my dear audience spark joy for me
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and jameson so thank you and
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a bell isn’t there
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there’s a bell somewhere if you hit that
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bell when we
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bring out new video that will
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go off presumably
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do both of those things if we spark joy
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for you
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which is probably becoming less likely
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by the second right now
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