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Are you a list maker? I am. It’s how I get things done.
But doesn’t life sometimes just feel like an endless “To-Do List”? We wake up, make a list, do what we can on that list, and before we know it, there’s another day, gone.
And, if we’re not careful, we get to the end of every day feeling like our confidence has been eroded because we didn’t even get to half of the list.
Not to mention there are always those same things on our to-do list that never seem to get done. They just endlessly roll over to the next day, and the next one…
I don’t want my life to be one long box-ticking exercise, do you?
If you want to feel like you’re truly LIVING, not just ticking boxes, check out my new video.
The technique I give in this video shows us how to feel connected to the things we have to do in our day so that we don’t become list-checking zombies with no real joy in our lives.
I know once you learn this, it will become an indispensable part of your daily practice. I look forward to your feedback.
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do you ever feel like every day is just
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a
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to-do list that is never-ending
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you go to bed having not accomplished
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everything on your to-do list
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wake up the next day it rolls over
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and now you start again
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and it becomes daunting because now it’s
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like what is life all about
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is this my life i just wake up and have
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this long to-do list of things that i
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just need to
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tick off life is just one big ticking
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off exercise this there must be
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more to it than this
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it’s kind of like step one in life is to
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have a list
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right some people don’t have a list some
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people wake up their day is aimless
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they don’t know what direction they’re
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going in they don’t know what they to
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what to do today and they don’t have any
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structure
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so of course the first step in having a
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better life is to have some structure is
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to have a sense of what i want to
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accomplish today to have some kind of a
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list but i think that
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that doesn’t get to a more advanced
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level which is
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for every to do on our list to
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recognize and to be very clear
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about what master this to do
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is serving i’ll have my to-do and let’s
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say there’s 20 to-do’s for the day
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or 10 or 5 depending on how big they are
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for each to-do
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no matter how big or small next to it
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i write why this to do
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even matters what master is this serving
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what
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goal is it taking me towards because if
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we don’t do that
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then the to-do list is hollow it is
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devoid of emotion of significance
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of meaning as simon sinek would say is
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devoid of the
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why and when we don’t know our why
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it becomes very difficult to get
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ourselves to do things because we’re not
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moved by emotion we’re simply moved by
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willpower
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so try this for your to-do list today
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look at every single thing on that list
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and
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next to it write down what master
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that to do is serving
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because remember this your to-do list
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is there to serve you you’re the master
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the to-do list is working for you
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you’re not working for the to-do list it
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exists
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to serve my goals my dreams
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my hopes what i’m trying to achieve in
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life how i want to feel in life what i
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want to get better at
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in life what skills i want to develop in
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life
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what relationships i want to make deeper
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in life the list is my slave i’m not a
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slave to the list
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and when we understand that we we
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realize ah there’s
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this next thing on my list that i was
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just groaning about i’m actually excited
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about it
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or maybe i’m not even excited about it
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maybe i don’t i still don’t
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like it but i see the value in it and
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now what was resentment turns into
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gratitude
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some of you will say but on my list is
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going to work today in a job i hate
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okay but how do you link that to your
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goal you better be able to
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maybe doing the job you hate is leading
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you to somewhere you want to go maybe
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it’s buying you the time to work on the
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project you really want to work on
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maybe it’s a stepping stone to a
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position you really want to be in
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maybe if you prove yourself here and
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show people how able you are in this job
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you don’t want to do you’ll end up doing
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a job you do want to do
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because people will offer you more
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opportunities more responsibility
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more power so there you see ah there’s a
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connection there’s a through line
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there’s a thread between this thing i
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don’t want to do and the thing that i do
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want to do so in a sense this is a thing
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i do want to do
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do you see that it doesn’t make it
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enjoyable
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plenty of days i go to the gym i don’t
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find it enjoyable but
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when i connect to what i’m doing it for
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i see that it’s valuable
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and when i see that it’s valuable i go
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from resentment
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to gratitude and that is a huge
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shift i go from seeing it as something i
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have to do
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as something that’s for me this is a
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very valuable part of your daily process
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do not just have a to-do list
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have a connection list where for each to
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do you make the connection between that
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to-do
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and the goal the master that it’s
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serving in march of this year i have
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my virtual retreat that is happening
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again for the second time
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we ran the first one it was the first
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ever time that we had taken my live
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retreat and run it as a
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virtual event which was still live but
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of course
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accessible through people’s homes i was
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in my home delivering it with an entire
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crew
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and a production but everyone was in
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their homes or
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wherever they were in the world being
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able to take the retreat for the first
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time without having to fly to
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the united states to do it and we
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changed hundreds of lives in the first
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virtual retreat
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that we never would have been able to
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change were it not virtual and it’s
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going to be the same again this time if
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you missed it that time
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do not miss it this time because i’m
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going to be breaking down the exact
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daily practices that are going to
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transform your life
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get you connected but will also
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transform
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your confidence the way you think about
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your life
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and create an incredible plan to find
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out more about the program
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or to ask one of my team a question if
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you have a question about the program
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go to this link find out more and as
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always
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i will see you in next week’s video
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you
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