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OK, picture this . . .
I’m in my local coffee shop, minding my own business—my business in this case is ordering an oat milk flat white (just in case we ever go to coffee and you want to know what my order is)—and I get talking to a woman who tells me she’s mad at me.
She knows who I am, she’s a fan, she even said my program worked for her, and yet she told me she was mad at me.
In this week’s new video, I tell the full story . . .
You’re going to want to watch the full story, because it highlights how so many people get hurt because they follow 95% of my advice, but ignore one of the most crucial things I say.
Think of it this way: you can have all the right ingredients to bake a cake, but if you forget to add baking powder, the cake isn’t going to rise. In this video, you’re going to learn what the baking powder of dating is. Without it, your relationship will not rise, which explains what happened to this woman I met in the coffee shop.
Check it out, and don’t forget to leave me a comment when you get there.
Happy weekend, friend!
P.S. I’m giving away a free video module of one of my favorite programs, Attraction to Commitment, at the end of this video. If you’re sick of guys wanting to see you casually, and are ready for a real relationship with someone who’s willing to commit, this is for you. Watch till the end of the video where I give you your free training link.
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so i was in a coffee shop the other day
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and someone comes over and says
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matthew at my table is a huge fan of
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yours she’s got your programs will you
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please come over and say hi
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so i come over to their table i say hi
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and this person says you know thank you
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i got your attraction to commitment
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absolutely works what you do
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works she said but if i’m honest i’m
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actually a little mad at you
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and i said why are you mad she said
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because i feel like i spent
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so much time trying to bring my best
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trying to be my most attractive self to
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that i feel like i kind of lost myself
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giving too much to the relationship when
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i heard that at first i was confused
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because i spend so much of this program
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that she was referring to
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saying things like this remaining a
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is about maintaining the other important
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and i want you to think about what those
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things are those things that make
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you you they’re very very important
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because when someone meets you that’s
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that they get attracted to in the first
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is the rounded multi-dimensional
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person that you are but i understand
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there is a kind of selective hearing
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really like someone when we’re really
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our mind goes to how do i keep them how
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do i impress them how do i be my most
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attractive self to this person and of
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i do tell people that in my programs
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here’s how to bring your best
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to the table and i will always stand by
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that by the way i can never relate to
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people in my comments section online
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someone says well why do you need to do
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all of this for a person why do you need
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to be your most attractive self why
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can’t you just be who you are
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and i always think what why are the two
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mutually exclusive why can’t you be who
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you are but also focus on bringing your
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i want to do that i want to be
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irreplaceable in my life and in every
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one of my relationships i want to bring
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so much value to that relationship
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that it’s obvious to someone why they
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would want to continue that relationship
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with me whether it’s in business
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in my love life in my friendships my
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all about bringing value but the
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selective hearing that happens sometimes
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when someone listens to one of my
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is that they hear all the parts that
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they can do to be impressive
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but they forget about the parts or they
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ignore the parts where i say
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by the way pay very close attention to
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whether this person is bringing you the
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mutual investment and i’ve been saying
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you don’t invest in someone based on how
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much you like them you invest in them
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based on how much they invest in you
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pay very close attention to whether they
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are investing the same amount of time
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in you because although i talk about
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although i talk about everything you
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should put in that energy
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that time that value you should put in
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should be expensive it should come at a
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and the cost is i’m willing to give you
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as long as you meet me there that’s the
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and if you ignore the fact that someone
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now you’re in trouble and why does
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someone ignore the fact that this person
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because they’re blinded by how much they
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they’re blinded by how impressive or
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they think that person is and they
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forget that it’s not enough in a
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relationship to be impressed by the
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you also have to be impressed by the
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it’s not enough to think they’re great
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the relationship itself has to provide
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because if you’re with someone who’s
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but the relationship itself does not
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bring you value does not bring you joy
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then you’re in a world of suffering and
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pain no matter how wonderful the person
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is and your reality isn’t determined by
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but how beautiful the ecosystem of the
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that’s what’s going to determine your
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emotional reality and your emotional
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reality is going to determine your
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so ask not just are they impressive is
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the relationship and what i get from the
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impressive because that’s the only way
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all these things that matthew hussey
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says to bring to the table
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to the table and if you wake up every
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morning and ask yourself are my needs
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being met in this relationship
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and the answer is no too many days or
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you know something has to change if you
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want to continue this journey with me i
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actually am giving you today a
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free module from the attraction to
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commitment program that this amazing
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woman was talking about so you can go
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you just need to put your email address
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in sign up to the mailing list and you
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can be watching that entire training
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all right check it out it’s at this link
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