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what’s wrong with men it’s not gay I’m
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just nice you know what’s up you guys
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welcome back to my channel my name is
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Sam and I’m female to male transgender
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for years on testosterone three years
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post-op top surgery and no I did not
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realize that this shirt is the trans
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colors until someone pointed out to mean
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they’re like eyes you do that on purpose
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I said do do what on purpose
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I guess that’s that but I don’t know so
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today I wanted to talk to you guys about
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my least favorite parts of being a man
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now that I have experience life as a man
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for quite a few years for years to be
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exact you know on testosterone and I
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have also experienced life as a female
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for 19 years prior to that this is a
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very light-hearted version of course
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there’s way more intense things to be
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like upset over like being a man or
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what’s wrong with being a man or what’s
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wrong with men so it’s been very
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interesting I’m gonna share with you
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some of those things that are not my
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favorite let’s get into it because the
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first thing is because my ankle is now
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healed and I’m wanting to play soccer
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again it’s like I didn’t even think
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about this I would have to play on it
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all men’s team and I grew up playing on
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an all-girls team obviously and it was
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like one of my favorite things ever
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because it’s like the bonding with the
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girls and I just get along
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typically with girls better generally
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speaking they tend to be a little bit
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more like advanced in their emotions and
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communication and that’s how I grew up
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so now think you know if going to play
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soccer I’m like oh sweet I can go play
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soccer now and then my heart kind of
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sank I was like oh God
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because not only do I not bond with them
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as well but also it’s super freaking
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aggressive females are badass too and
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they’re aggressive in their own way but
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I remember watching growing up watching
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the guys play and then playing myself
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and we play just as hard but it’s
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different there’s like different energy
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the guys feel like they’re gonna fucking
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like whip out your leg break it and like
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use it to beat you like I don’t know
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maybe I just really aggressive people
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for soccer
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I guess the overarching theme of that is
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like I missed the bonding time that you
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have with other girls
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second thing is bathrooms cuz ooh I’ve
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covered this in another video but just
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discussing there’s like people groaning
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there’s
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shit everywhere I’m not kidding it
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smells gross I don’t know why there’s so
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much grunting the bathroom is so gross
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it’s so weird and I’m not a germaphobe
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I’m not like you know OCD about that
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shit but it’s legitimately disgusting
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it’s exactly what you think it would be
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girls another thing to think about what
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the bathroom is something I do not ever
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think about before experiencing this is
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when you have to use the restroom
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because I have a had bottom surgery I
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have to use a stall now there is usually
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a one stall in the guys bathroom maybe
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two if you’re lucky maybe three if
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you’re like have outstanding luck and
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when guys are using the stall what are
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they doing they’re shitting meaning
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they’ll take forever because I don’t
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know what guys do but they literally
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will poop for like 20 minutes so when
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you have to pee really bad you can’t
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just like run to urinal this is one of
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my least favorite things that I think is
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also kind of funny because it’s a weird
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problem to have but when I have to pee
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sometimes I can’t or I have to wait 25
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minutes just to pee because there’s only
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one stall and it dude is in there like
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blowing it up and besides it being gross
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something you don’t think about is like
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oh yeah you’re gonna have to wait like
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30 minutes until someone gets out of
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there taking their sweet time pooping
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another thing is experiences with
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waiters and this extends itself to like
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co-workers or like anyone I guess your
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first meeting at social gatherings but
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it’s like waiters specifically my mom
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and I have noticed if you really pay
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attention now to how people treat the
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guys at your table and then the girls at
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your table when they’re waiting on you
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it’s so drastically different but in my
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experience when waiters would come up to
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us when I was a female you know they’re
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very polite and they’re like hi what can
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I get you guys oh okay sounds good
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mother was very polite like that and
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then literally now that I’m a guy
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they’ll turn you man I was like sup bud
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what you need it’s like so informal like
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they don’t give a fuck and they’ll just
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say I’ve had a couple waiters be like
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all right bud slap me on the back and
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it’s not like a gentle little thing like
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they do if you’re a female
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it’s like a fucking five-star slap on
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your back and I’m like
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thanks bud it’s basically I don’t like
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how little guys pay attention to you
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when you’re a guy and I don’t mean that
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romantically I mean that literally just
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like if you’re going to any type of
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social gathering
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you just really notice I guess what
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girls already know but I wasn’t as
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particularly aware of that of this
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happening because I already was kind of
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like a guy when I was a female and a
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tomboy I was just like in my own field
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so but it’s like any social gathering
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there’s like subdued they shake your
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hand and walk off it just feels rude I
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guess a lot of the time and it’s just
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strange to me because I don’t care what
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gender you are I’m still like a person
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that’s interested in getting to know who
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you are especially at a socially having
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same coworkers had jobs that I’ve
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started one now that I’m a guy
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throughout the years it’s like all my
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guy co-workers if I’m starting like with
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another girl or something they’ll be
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like hi nice to meet you how are you I’m
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like subdued and there’s like not even
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introduce themselves they won’t get to
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know me and I’m like what is this weird
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like assuming we just don’t give a shit
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about each other and you’re a person I’m
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a person why are we acting differently
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towards females it’s so weird it’s a
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weird concept to me along that same note
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I hate the weird of locker room talk
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it’s like this weird guy code thing of
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like you know since we’re dudes we know
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how to talk to each other and I’m like
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mm-hmm
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little do you know my friend I am
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transgender so no I don’t talk to you
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like that and I don’t even think the way
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they think a lot of guys will just come
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up to me and be like oh yeah that chick
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over there to see that big rack and I’m
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like no like I don’t know how how to
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talk like them I don’t know how to think
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like them because I just think it’s
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gross and unnecessary but it’s this
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weird assumption that I’m the same way
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that I don’t like and I I’m flattered
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that I guess they assume that because
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they are assuming I’m sis which is great
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that’s what I want but I don’t like what
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comes with that which is like assuming
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I’m emotional and like about a
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communication
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and just want to talk about girls in
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their bodies all day it’s like when I
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see a pretty girl literally what goes
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through my head is I holy crap she’s
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beautiful I don’t think like you like
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grow that doesn’t even enter my mind
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okay one of the last things is being
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seen gay I don’t mind people being gay
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obviously I don’t give a shit like half
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of my families within the lgbtqia+
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community but being seen as gay when I’m
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not gay
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here’s the thing that bothers me when
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you are a female and you like other
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females but internally you’re a male so
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those females are seeing you as a
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lesbian and if they’re not a lesbian
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they’re not interested in you
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so when you feel like a man that’s
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annoying because you’re like oh I’m not
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a lesbian you know and they’re seeing me
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as that and so I get excited when I
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transition and I am now a man you know
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physically a man with hormones and
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everything and then because of my I
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don’t know it I think it’s just my humor
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and the way I talk and I joke around and
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I’m pretty open and outgoing and and I
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don’t know why but everyone that meets
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me thinks I’m gay and then my close
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friends are always like what people
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think you’re gay that’s so weird I know
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and back to that being seen as a lesbian
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that I’m like sweet I’m gonna be seen as
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a male finally you know like the world
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is gonna see me how I feel and it’ll be
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more matching up with those females that
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I like and then when now that I’m a guy
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and with the same trace I had I’m not
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gonna change myself but because of that
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now those same girls see me as gay so no
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matter what gender I appear to them I am
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gay and therefore they wouldn’t want to
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be with me and I’m like damn it I’m like
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I’m not gay I’m just nice so yeah I mean
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that’s just like kind of a bummer it
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makes dating life a little bit harder
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when it everyone you’re trying to do
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this to miss your intimate and you’re
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not so anyway those are like the weird a
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little lighthearted things that I’ve
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come up with throughout my experience
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being a man
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last four years and noticing these like
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slight different changes I think it’s
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pretty hilarious overall I’m not like
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that concerned about any of those and of
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course there are much deeper more gnarly
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things to be concerned about as men and
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what men are doing and how men are seen
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and treated and and how they treat other
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people I hope you guys found that
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interesting again I didn’t think about
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them until I experienced them so maybe
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we could like heads up if you’re trans
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and your transition female to male
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anyways I love you guys
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thanks for watching I’ll be back next
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week with another video let me know in
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the comments down below what you guys
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are enjoying or what you want to see in
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the future I’m happy to make that and I
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love you guys I’ll talk to you later
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adios back
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come here come here show other people
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your cute little face I’m this is Patti
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okay I’ve missed you so much
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deuces you’re so cute so be in the video
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right there okay cool
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