By Sam Switz
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Ok Karen..calm down..lol
Is “cisgender” a bad word? People are wildly upset at it and we discuss it here 💁🏼♂️
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let’s talk about cisgender shall we
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what’s up you guys welcome back to my
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channel my name is Sam and I’m
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female-to-male transgender for years on
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testosterone three years post-op top
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surgery and today we’re gonna be talking
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about the term and cisgender I’ve seen
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it flying around the internet I just
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watched a video one of my favorite
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youtubers Sam Collins all linked his
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video down below it was very well done
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it’s called is cisgender a slur Oh check
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it out he’s awesome
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but that’s where this idea kind of
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sparked and from me also just reading
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and hearing about this there has been a
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lot of debate about whether it is
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offensive it should be used how it
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should be used there’s just a lot of
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like uproar which is so strange to me
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before we start I want to remind people
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of what transgender and cisgender really
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mean one of my siblings got me this
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transgender history by Susan Stryker
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it’s a great book very very very well
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worded I think she defined transgender
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cisgender really well so what is
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transgender it’s people who move away
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from the gender they were assigned at
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birth people who cross over trans the
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boundary is constructed by their culture
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to define and contain that gender some
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people move away from their birth assign
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gender because they feel strongly that
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they properly belong to another gender
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through which it would be better for
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them to live others want to strike out
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towards some new locations some space
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not yet hello clearly described or
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concretely occupied still others simply
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feel the need to challenge the
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conventional expectations bound up with
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the gender that was initially put upon
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them in any case it is the movement
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across a socially imposed boundary away
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from an uncertain starting place rather
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than any particular destination or mode
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of transition that best characterizes
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the concept of transgender that spans
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gender right trans means to cross over
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it’s very simple right cisgender is that
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the prefix it means on the same side as
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that is the opposite of trans which
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means across it is meant to mark the
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typically unstated or assumed privilege
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of being non transgender
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idea behind the term is to resist the
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way that woman or man can mean non
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transgender woman or non transgender man
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by default unless the person’s
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transgender or non-binary status is
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explicitly named it is the same logic
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that would lead somebody to prefer seing
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white woman a black woman rather than
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simply using woman to describe a white
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woman thus presenting white as the
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unharmed norm and black woman to
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indicate a departure from the norm when
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it comes down to it they’re just terms
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that mean across or on the same side as
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those prefixes right it’s just a term
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they’re not an identity I think a big
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reason why people are wanting to
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identify what is what is to be more
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inclusive rather than exclusive
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I personally don’t get it but let’s dive
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in okay I get quite a few comments on my
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videos that are really offended by the
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term cisgender this is what one person
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said a woman is a woman not a cisgender
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woman a man is a man not a cisgender man
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a trans man is a trans man not a man
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otherwise there’d be no need for the
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trans qualifier someone else commented
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underneath that’s like saying that a
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human is a human not a homo sapien
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brilliant it’s like the perfect response
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because it’s true cisgender is just what
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a person is I’ve seen a lot of
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transphobic people say that they’re
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really accepting of trans people but
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they just don’t want to be called
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cisgender or like a trans man isn’t a
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man and you can’t say that sentence and
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not be transphobic because what you’re
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saying is a trans man isn’t a man which
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is how they identify that’s like
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basically saying you don’t exist like
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your definition is wrong and I don’t
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accept you so that’s not being accepting
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of transgender people meaning you’re
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transphobic it’s very simple in my head
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at least and I think a big reason for a
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lot of these conversations is to be more
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inclusive and rework these definition of
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what does it mean to be a man what does
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it mean to be a woman we are evolving so
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of course it’s gonna be backlash because
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that’s what always happens a lot of
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closed-minded people just go straight to
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like science and biology I will do a
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whole other video on this but that’s not
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even true they’re trying to use it as a
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way to like disguise their
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yeah but it just doesn’t work because
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it’s very blatant moving on to this
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video this video was insane calling this
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video that I said I would link down
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below after watching it I was like oh
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man I have to respond to this as well so
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this woman Julia who she started
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something fierce
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up in me the contact for what they’re
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talking about is just trans people in
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prisons right
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she basically calls herself accepting
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like she’s not transphobic but then says
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these things well so if you are a woman
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in a woman’s prison you should be safe
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from being attacked by a sis or a trans
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woman
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so actually everyone should be safe to
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say you’re not allowed to come on my
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show and say a sis or a trans woman a
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woman it just is trans poor guy in the
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background this is like the opposite of
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change which is so true that’s literally
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all it is but people get so worked up
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she almost made him leave like she’s
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threatening him to stop using the term
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or else she’s going to make him leave he
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wasn’t even using it maliciously like
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I’ve seen people use the word cisgender
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like in a derogatory way but he wasn’t
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he was just like defining what people
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are no a there’s a you don’t you I’m not
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to assist woman vanessa is not to assist
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woman we are we’re not assist woman
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however I was born a woman and identify
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as a woman so you’re cisgender sorry sis
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it’s not a bad thing it’s just what you
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are like it’s no big deal however
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cisgender our people are going to get
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upset about it if they are having to
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then share a space share the word with
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trans people that they don’t like that
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they don’t accept that they hate
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that’s transphobia at its finest my
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friends women we all biologically women
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are biologically women yes you are get
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over it what is the big deal Jesus not
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gonna have that BBC claptrap on my show
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I’m just using a bit just to
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differentiate this poor guy
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I’m young too sis woman woman I was born
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of woman she just defined cisgender
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woman after saying I’m not a cisgender
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woman
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we’re not sis with me we don’t have to
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it just what we call for a tiny minority
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of this is disgusting I’m sorry I guess
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I wanted to respond to this because I
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wanted people to really really at least
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my followers really realize that this is
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hateful and it is transphobic and it’s
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really rude and to not like listen to
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this at all because she’s being
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kind of sly about it to where I could
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see a lot of people maybe understanding
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like oh she’s not that hateful and what
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she is saying very clearly behind some
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weird I don’t know like subtle thing to
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hide it is trans women aren’t women
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trans men or ins men or else there
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wouldn’t be an issue and you could just
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say men but she doesn’t want to share
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the space or the word with transgender
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people or else there wouldn’t be an
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issue and she says she’s not transphobic
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I’m quite happy for someone to be a
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trans woman or transmat but you don’t
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take away what I am being cisgender and
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being called cisgender literally does
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you no harm I don’t understand what the
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big issue is they’re like you’re forcing
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this identity on me that I don’t agree
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with and it’s like first off you
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identify as a man or a woman or a
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non-binary person whatever that’s the
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identity right transgender is a term
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cisgender is just a term it’s just what
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you are so people just need to stop
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using that I find it so funny too
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because the trans people obviously our
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big issue why we have a hard time in
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society is because people are constantly
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calling us something that we don’t
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identify with so they’re really relating
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to our situation without connecting the
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dots the thing with the cisgender that
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infuriates me a little bit about people
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even like being upset about it is it’s
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not bad being mad at being called
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cisgender like there’s so many other
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things to be mad about in this world you
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don’t lose jobs over it you don’t get
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killed for being just cisgender you
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don’t have laws change that like strip
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you of just human rights anything when
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you’re called cisgendered it will only
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make you be treated better seem better
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viewed as like a superior person your
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experience in this world is just
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elevated you are privileged and so
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privileged people complaining about a
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term that is accurate and not derogatory
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blows my mind and makes me so angry
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because it’s so stupid it kind of
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reminds me while we’re going through
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this like worldwide pandemic how people
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don’t want to hear about privileged
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people complaining about staying in
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their house when they have pools their
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own gyms while there’s so many things
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going on in this world people are dying
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some people can’t even make rents
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they’re being kicked out you don’t want
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to hear privileged people complaining
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because they’re privileged so it kind of
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goes for the same thing of this it’s
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like nothing bad is going on with this
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gender however I do understand if people
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are saying in a derogatory way I get it
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because speaking to anyone in a
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derogatory way is just rude I want
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people to remember like you can make any
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word derogatory I could call you a frog
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and your freakin frog and even though it
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sounds like really stupid and silly
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right now it’s not a word itself that is
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bad it’s what’s behind it I don’t know
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how else to describe this you guys
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that’s my thoughts I just get so
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overwhelmed by like the ignorance
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there’s not many things that like really
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light a fire underneath me to where I
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like me to just rant and get angry but
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this whole conversation and people
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complaining about the word cisgender is
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just freakin stupid to me either explain
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to me in the comments why it’s so bad
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other than if they’re being rude because
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I get that in my eyes it really is just
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a term that defines who you are and as
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being therefore more inclusive so that
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we are just assuming every single person
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is born the gender that they are which
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totally on the other hand excludes
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non-binary people anyways I’m sorry this
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is a more serious video but I really
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have to get this off my chest I hope you
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guys are staying safe and having a good
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week let me know your guys thoughts in
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the comments down below I’d love to I
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guess get your opinion on this thank you
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so much for watching and I will talk to
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you guys later
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do you love you bye
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