My Ex Was an Amazing Guy

Let’s get a little serious here if he was amazing, why did I let him go? Is there anything wrong with me? Yes, it might be my fault.

And the answer to the first question, why I let him go is not easy for me to share.

Today I decided to share what traits he had, that make him amazing and I will advise men to make themselves amazing.

Firstly I would like to give a little disclaimer here, If you earn a ton of money, this isn’t truly what makes you truly attractive. Some other things make you feel truly attractive. These are the important things that make you unforgettable.

He was a leader

I always see him as a leader; he dominates the relationship from the start and leads the relationship.

It is a pick for you, If your woman sees you as her leader and you get to dominate or lead the relationship, you will feel kind of confident and this makes your woman turn on.

She will constantly seduce you in bed, you will feel like you are the most attractive man on the planet. This is a big catch for a man.

For him courting and chasing women was a business

He understands that there will be some failures, so he always keeps his options open. Doing so in a charming way makes me like him. It was an intelligent gesture.

Once I noticed that people adore him and even other women see him as incredible.

Doing this significantly increases dating value. So don’t commit immediately and take your time to increase your dating value. You will be incredibly surprised by the outcome.

There is nothing more frustrating than a desperate man who doesn’t have options. If you are the only person making plans or initiating every conversation or encounter, you need to move on.

Understand that there comes a time when you need to vet the level of effort she puts into the relationship from her side.

Once they see if she is investing, they choose whether or not it is worth it for her to be kept in the loop.

He was predictable

There is a difference between being unpredictable and emotionally unstable. My ex was successful in controlling his emotions, this made him predictable for me and It was easy for me to figure out what was causing the issues that came up in times when we were together.

Men who are unpredictable scare women, this makes them uneasy and their comfort of mind goes away. On the other hand, a man that could be predicted is a person, who could be trusted.

He was adventurous

Adventure in our relationship was not like you see in movies or read in adventurous novels, It was just a surprise. A surprise dinner, go out, or even a small purchase.

Women hate being bored and most importantly, they hate being lonely. Once she notices the adventure of your life, she is far more likely to invest in you.

I always wanted to be part of everything that he does, and might even force him into a conversation to learn more surprises in his personality.

He was non-reactive

If you want a clingy girl, try being non-reactive. One of the most powerful traits that I always appreciated in my man was his art of keeping himself cool in the face of emotional turmoil.

Who doesn’t react to everything he sees, brings the element of mystery in his personality. When you manage to become a little more mysterious in your everyday life, women will want to figure you out.

I can say, you should never react to anything she does, that tries to draw out any other emotion than positive.

This makes you seem like an impenetrable wall and she will want to try everything in her power to break down this wall, which is why she becomes overly invested.

He was edgy

This was the trait in my ex, that I noticed lately. Light jokes with slight insults without making me feel defensive, were funny and pleasant for me. I like that all the time.

Men with a little bit of an edge, often come across as confident and often a little dangerous and women truly love this, it makes them feel like they have slain the beast.

This doesn’t involve being a complete asshole, but making some of those sarcastic comments that she might find highly funny, don’t get personal with saying it might come off as insincere, but joking can make women have some fun as well.

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The world is your playground when it comes to making women fall in love with you and you do need to make sure that you understand the power of this.

Happy love, thanks for reading.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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