I’ve given up imagining that my words or actions can change her in any way. We’d like to think we can make another person happy, or comfortable, or secure. Unfortunately, we cannot.
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Staying Positive, Resetting, and Getting Positive Again
Child Support Can Be a Difficult Parenting Issue
She went ahead and filed on me. It’s the equivalent to sending your loved one (former loved one) to a collections agency. Suddenly my credit score fell through the floor, and I became listed as a deadbeat dad.
CoParenting with a Narcissist
Despite Best Attempts, Sometimes You Have to Forgive and Forget, A Lot
I’m certain I didn’t understand why she would do such a thing. I’m sure I wondered about her boundaries, and what she felt was appropriate vs. necessary.
Focus on Your Kid’s Strengths
What matters is the health of your kids not your relationship to your ex.
So while I’m sure that her motivation is more about them than her or me, I’m pretty sure she made the decision 100% without talking to me about it.
The Half-life of Divorce
What you can do to forgive and get over your ex.
Pain is an indication that something is unbalanced. Your sadness and pain at the divorce is no longer about your ex. Only you can deal with your frustration and negative feelings.
Rationalizing Your Divorce
Is it okay to stay in a marriage because of the kids?
I may never forgive my ex-wife for changing my time with my kids forever. The system is rigged in a mom’s favor, and as a dad I was given my “deal” and told to grin and bear it “for the benefit of the kids.”
Custody Should Be a Collaborative Term
This Dad Learned the Hard Way - 50/50 Parenting or Bust
You don’t want to be the non-custodial parent under any circumstances. Remember all that stuff you learned in couples therapy about power and control? The divorce brings out the worst of the dysfunction.
Showing Up In Spite of the Lizards
Surviving the Depression After the Divorce
I really wanted to disappear. I didn’t directly want to kill myself, but I could see the appeal of not waking up in the morning.
Dear Ex-Wife, You’re Missing the Point
The Attorney General is Not Going to Help
I could be mad about it. I could do things to get even. But I won’t. I have to rise above the blame and “imagine” that she’s doing the best she can.
Fierce Love
What makes for lasting relationships.
Sure, we’ll have challenges tomorrow. And we’ll procrastinate and avoid for a little while, but we’ll come back together with a fire and rage that says, “You’re mine.”
Muhammad Ali: A Good Men Project Compendium
The editors of and contributors to The Good Men Project are proud to present this collection of works inspired by Muhammad Ali.
The editors of and contributors to The Good Men Project are proud to present this collection of works inspired by Muhammad Ali.
10 Things I’ve Learned In the 5 Years Since My Divorce
John McElhenney has struggled since his divorce. His constant work, self-examination, and cultivation of a positive attitude has created a happier post-divorce family.
Dating a Divorced Parent: How Can We All Stay Connected?
We’ve got some connections to make in this world of relationships, parenting, and divorce. How to set expectations within all of your post-divorce relationships.
Why Are Most Violent People Male?
Andrew Smiler considers several reasons why violent people are more likely to be male than female.
Toxic People: 12 Things They Do and How to Deal with Them
“Being able to spot their harmful behavior is the first step to minimizing their impact. You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with it.”
Awaiting Vesuvius
When a romance is over, it’s over. The problem according to Jackie Summers, is that no one ever evacuates Pompeii until the volcano erupts.