I Want the World to See The Man I See in Myself

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About BlaQueer

BlaQueer: Born at the intersection of race and queerness; sentenced to time in the Midwest.

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  1. When ou smile, your whole face lights up. I thinkyou’re photogenic, beautiful just the way you are. Keep smiling. Keep clicking. Keep sharing.

  2. I am never really sure if I look good. I’m happy to see myself smiling in sunshine. You’ve touched on why. It’s not about getting the admiration of others. It’s reminding myself that I can be happy, and that being alive is beautiful.

  3. You are beautiful inside and out. I love the line you say, “.. I owe you nothing, but I owe myself everything.” Love, love, love this whole post. I do not take many selfies. Too self conscious, insecure, afraid of what others see. But after reading this I am thinking that I really should.

  4. Dude, while you’re not my type (straight, white guy here) you’re far from ugly. I’d even go so far as to agree with Brenda that you’re photogenic, though I lack the terminology to explain why I think that way. More importantly, if self portraits are a means for you to self examine and self direct then more power to you. Nice article, and an interesting question to pose to others I know who post selfies too. Thanks.

  5. This article resonates because it demonstrates the act of constructing a positive self image. I don’t think that many people realize the degree to which mass media representations of beauty deconstruct (even decimate) our self image, or how deeply ingrained those feelings of inferiority sit within us. It starts when we are young, and we grow up actively questioning whether or not we are “beautiful”. Doubts about self image are part of an ongoing and active process that is reinforced every single day.
    It is a habit, a compulsion, an unhealthy one at that, and habits can only be broken through changes in behavior.

    BlaQueer has made an active effort to depict his person as he is, the complete opposite of the media’s “if you don’t look like this, you are inadequate” message. Celebrating the person that he is, rather than lamenting the person that he isn’t… that is truly revolutionary. Such an activity might be therapeutic for those of us who still struggle with image insecurity.

    Three cheers for positive self image!!!

    Also, I love his squishy chocolate cheeks :-*

  6. You’re right that you don’t owe anyone an explanation, but thank you for taking the time to put this down. It is one of the most beautiful posts I have read in a while!

  7. You’re gorgeous. And you have such an amazing smile. And you are smart and articulate and thoughtful.

    And you don’t owe anything to anyone :)

  8. Joanna Schroeder says:

    BlaQueer – this post is so beautiful it made me cry the first time I read it, and again when I just saw it here.

    This is STUNNING in its honesty, and inspiring in its warmth and pride:

    ” I live in a world where I didn’t hear someone romantically call me beautiful and desirable till I was 26. I live in a world where either body privilege or race privilege is always against me. So I point my camera at my face, most often when I am alone, and possibly bored, and I click; I upload it to instagram, and I hold my breath because the world is cruel and I am what some would call ugly, but I don’t see it.”

  9. Mhhh… those lips are SEXY!!! :D

  10. This reminds me if a quote a friend of mine said to me that really sums up what I felt after reading this:

    @fortheluvofu: “In this society….I am voiceless and I’m invisible.”

    We see you and hear you.

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