Sex Slavery in America

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Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.

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  1. Atlanta has the biggest problems with human sex trafficking.

    • NYC and LA are pretty bad too. Most urban centers. Lotta fronts… massage parlours and other types of joints have these hidden basements. Sick.

  2. Tom, thank you for sharing this story. I’d like to point out something. You open the article saying that this blog has covered other topics of the sex industry where differing points of view are considered, but this issue is less morally ambiguous. On the surface, this would indeed seem to be true, but I’m curious how this agent can confidently say that there is a clear distinction between sex-trafficking/slavery and the general sex industry (to include porn, stripping and prostitution).

    Where are these girls going after all? My understanding is that they are being put into prostitution (as confirmed by the agent) and also pornography. So how can there be no correlation? And furthermore, if there are willing women who are in these industries by choice, why is there such a need to force some into the industry? Because the demand is greater than the supply? And if this is true, than it would certainly follow that part of the solution, a big part, is to reduce the demand. And since a customer of the sex industry has no way of knowing if the girl/woman he is paying to view or have services from is truly willing or being forced…well, then the answer is obvious.

    I think it’s also important to look at what the agent said about some of these girls returning to “what they know” even after they’ve been freed. This means they are willingly returning to the sex industry, and it is that “choice” that defenders of the sex industry use an argument, but right there you have an example of how those choices can be skewed by previous abuses.

    We defend the sex industry so vehemently in this country while ignoring how it’s growth is in fact hurting many people. What is the right answer? I don’t think there is one right answer, but I do know that we have to stop letting our fear of being returned to puritanism get in the way of looking at the reality of these issues.

    • Tom Matlack says:

      Velvet fair point. That is why I asked the question. You’d have to talk to him as to why he believes that. But what I think he meant was that a John doesn’t usually know whether a prostitute is being threatened or beaten or not. Both are wrong (in my view) but sex trafficking is a federal felony, a much more serious crime. I do think there is a difference. That isn’t to say they aren’t connected. But stripping or being a prostitute is something we might debate about. Sex trafficking is not.

      • Tom, thanks for the reply. I guess the point I’m trying to make is that when we debate about the seemingly more morally ambiguous topics, such as stripping or prostitution generally, we have to introduce into those debates issues such as this. Instead of asking, “is going to a stripper club cheating?”, we need to delve deeper. We can’t win the war against human sex trafficking without decreasing the demand, and that requires that we all take a more honest look at the deeper issues.

    • Agree with Velvet – there is a connection between the feeder industries of porn & prostitution into sex trafficking. We can keep putting on the band aids, but until the real problem is addressed, that’s all we’ll be doing. Here’s a link to the nonprofit website that I work for which has studies and cases showing a link between pornography and sex trafficking – http://tinyurl.com/3lgxaz2. Thanks for the article!

  3. David M says:

    I’ve been on this site for a while but the above bile from ‘David’ has forced me to comment.

    Why is it that this site, which as far as I’m aware is supposed to be about open communication and honestly looking at issues, is constantly trolled by angry small-minded men?

    All I see in the above article is someone trying to raise the issue of sex slaves, how we think about them and what we might do about the issue. Not being ‘pro-women’ at the expense of men.

    Yet, ‘David’ feels he must attack anyone who speaks up about this… why?

    Its as though he (and the others of his ilk) have some kind of agenda to distract, confuse, misdirect and otherwise obstruct the mature and honest discussion of any issue where someone has ‘dared’ to speak up about troubles facing women.

  4. I am curious as to why my comments have been pulled. If there is a new moderation policy or if I have been banned then I think it is appropriate to inform people of that. However, since the anti-male comments by Sil remain, it appears that only critical comments were pulled. I find this most disturbing since the issue was addressing male victims of sex slavery. I understand that with this being a feminist blog discussion of sexual violence against male is a taboo and unwelcome topic, but I think that if you want to have a open discussions you should have open discussions.

    It is unfortunate that it appears that The Good Men Project does not want to acknowledge male victims of sexual exploitation, and worse that it appears to now block anyone who mentions them.

    • Jacob, comments being pulled for simply being the “offensive” truth, being YOUR opinion or being politically incorrect seems common. We do deserve some real answers as to why non-feminist genuine male concerns get banned all too often.

      Non-PC truth is VERY offensive to many.

      Sex slavery IS VERY common, BUT most of it exists in 3 ways this article and most fail to face.

      1- Women who use sex to lead men around (enslave them) and get them to do whatever they want and spend trillions on them or just give total control of their money over to those women altogether which is common (women control 70+% of all disposable income, and ussually through sexual coercion – slavery). To free themselves, men need to realize that women actually do like sex as much as or even more than men. This amounts to costing far more than the most expensive hookers, constantly, and most men don’t add it up. Knowing that, just stay away from the ones who use their sexuality to enslave (most women).

      2- Women also sexually enslave by tricking many men into getting them pregnant (and many more by not tricking but just realizing they can enslave men later into a marriage by making false abuse allegations. Others and I find in interviewing thousands of divorced fathers that 3/4 of divorces with children end with false abuse allegations, used to gain in divorce) and then divorcing and enslaving them for 18 or more years, all for having sex with them. Not slavery? Not sex slavery? Not the PC type you want to even hear about??? This slavery gamut is very LARGE, very alive and VERY well, and all but ignored. Even the foreign women are taught they can make false allegations to enslave a man of their choice and be put on the fast track to citizen ship as a reward for enslaving a man. You hear the rumors of bad men bringing foreign women here to enslave them, but the truth is that this are RARE while the other is exceedingly common and REWARDED.

      Do you want to loose your house, your money and your future earnings (slavery) ? Do you want to be thrown in jail if you don’t pay up and perform on that? Then just order a foreign mail order bride so she can make very common false abuse allegations to hit the jack-pot!!! It’s PC to tell that foreign women comming here are often brought here as sex slaves, but the truth, much more common is that more of them come here to enslave a man, to use that to get fast=track citizenship. That’s far more common. Many more married women enslave their husbands by telling them “now because they have children together that she now has the power to wreck his life and enslave him by making false abuse or rape allegations at any time and have him thrown in jail (no evidence needed – what you subsidize you get more of).” So, she very effective threatens that she will enslave him if he does not do everything her way now… We see lots of these cases. Why does TGMP bury them? Thus, either way (false allegations carried through with or not) he is now put on notice and is already at this point 100%effectively controlled and held hostage to do all her bidding (enslaved for having had sex with her).

      There is however ONE clever WAY OUT of these three prolific crime scenarios: Be the nicest guy on earth and give her everything she wants with no reciprocation whatsoever, treat her like the princess she is (be her slave already) and she will maybe, just maybe, have mercy on your pathetic slave soul.

      Others and I have observed and interviewed countless US male slaves from these scenarios which are condoned by so many. Does TGMP condone this?

      • David M says:

        One word… balance!

        Anyone with the emotional and mental maturity to be interested in this blog will nto be in teh demographic of men you describe.

        The article is in fact speaking about /women/ who have the same mental problems as those of men who are abused by women.

        There is /no/ difference, its the same problem.

        Man up.

        • “Man up.”

          The shaming language of the White Knight.

          Busted. You just showed you have nothing to say. You just showed you have no place on a blog devoted to men’s concenrs.

      • Actually, I routinely disagree with most of the authors here (especially Hugo) and I find this site to be the least heavy-handed in moderation.

        That being said, if you include web links for citations, I found out the hard way that you need to insert a space in the beginning of a link: ht tp. And near the end: .ht ml or .o rg

        TGMP has a heavy-handed anti-spam bot that patrols against people spamming with commercial web-pages.

      • Why was advoc8′s comment not pulled. It is obviously a discriminatory attack on women. Or maybe we should ask this guy for statistical proof of his claims.

  5. The average age of entry into the commercial sex industry in the U.S. is between 12 to 14 years old.

    Do you have a source for that statistic?

  6. Two quibbles, one in each direction.

    1) An *average* age of 12-14 in the U.S. (b.t.w. why not just say “average age of 13?”) is problematic considering just how many women become prostitutes in their 20s. I’m pretty sure the confusion arises in selective inclusion or exclusion of three or four distinct types of prostitution: 1) very young children offered by parents or near relatives, usually in exchange for drugs or to placate “boyfriends;” 2) teenagers who enter prostitution facilitated by peer- or near-peer pimps or “boyfriends” who may or may not be involved in gangs; 3) adult women of all ages who resort to prostitution to support substance or other survival/street issues; and finally 4) conventional escorts and other kinds of “middle-class” prostitutes. If you include #1 then ages age drop to a point where an *average* age of entry could conceivably be 13. Same if you ignore #4, which many people do (possibly because relatively few can be meaningfully counted as “trafficked.”) Anyway, yes, if you include all four groups there’s no realistic way to get to an average of 13 unless one heck of a lot of children become prostitutes before age 10. But generally speaking I’m pretty sure they mean that of those who become prostitutes *as children* the average age of entry is around 13.

    2) Tom posed this all in terms of women and girls being conscripted into prostitution, which strongly implies that *only* women and girls are conscripted into prostitution. Since I’m aware that “Good Men” really isn’t a euphemism for “Straight Men” I expect this is an oversight. But it is a *very* common oversight in discussions of prostitution and trafficking.

    Oh, and 2a) a perpetual bugaboo of mine is the assumption that only “sex trafficking” victims are coerced into sex. And thus that only sex trafficking is a “real” problem. Instead, rather obviously, men, women, boys, and girls who are merely trafficked for their labor are subject to extraordinary levels of sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape on their “off” time.

    figleaf

    • The lprimary source for these figures is likely to be the “Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children in the U.S. Canada and Mexico” by Estes and Weiner. Their figures pertain to the “commercial exploitation” of a “convenience sample” of “children under the direct care of either a law enforcement or human service agency”. In other words, limited to your category #3 and #4 only. It is entirely inappropriate to represent these figures as applying to US sex workers generally.

      Oh, and 2a) a perpetual bugaboo of mine is the assumption that only “sex trafficking” victims are coerced into sex. And thus that only sex trafficking is a “real” problem. Instead, rather obviously, men, women, boys, and girls who are merely trafficked for their labor are subject to extraordinary levels of sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape on their “off” time.

      I’m somewhat perturbed by your wording here which implies that non-sex trafficking is only a “real problem” because of the sexual abuse inflicted upon the victims. I’m sure that wasn’t what you meant.

      • Yes, definitely, by complaining that trafficked labor is also sexually exploited I had no intention of denying that people for trafficked for sex wouldn’t be. (I do dispute the assertion of some parties that by-definition all sex work = trafficking. But I also dispute the equally partisan assertion that sex workers are effectively never trafficked.)

        figleaf

      • In other words, limited to your category #3 and #4 only.

        Sigh! This is what happens when you try to restructure a sentence and screw up. What I should have said was: “limited to your category #2 only”.

  7. SnakeEyez says:

    Actually the Village Voice has come out with a few articles that is skeptical of how large a problem ‘sex trafficking’ is in the United States: http://www.villagevoice.com/2011-06-29/news/real-men-get-their-facts-straight-sex-trafficking-ashton-kutcher-demi-moore/2/

    One of the contentions of the story is that statistics in Estes and Weiners’ study, ‘Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children in the U.S’, have no basis in reality. The Village Voice has been running several such stories recently. It should be noted though that the Village Voice does own the web site backpage that runs adult services ads.

    It would be nice if other news agencies would investigate the Voice’s claims.

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  10. If you do any hard factual research and not listen to the government, media, and anti-prostitution groups, you will find that the victims of sex trafficking are mostly adult consensual prostitutes. Doing sex work of their own free will. The police and government will say the women are victims, but the women prostitutes won’t say they are victims, because there are not! The police and government won’t believe them and will force them to be “rescued” which means forcing them to do whatever the government tells them to do. So it is actually the government who are forcing the prostitutes.

    Human Trafficking, Sex Trafficking, Sex Slavery is used by many groups as an attempt to outlaw all consensual adult prostitution around the world by saying that all women are victims even if they do it willing. This hurts any real victims because it labels all sex workers as victims. This is done by the media, aid groups, NGO’s, feminists, politicians, Government officials and religious organizations that receive funds from the government. There are very strong groups who promote that all adult women who have sex are victims even if they are willing, enjoy it and go out of there way to get it. These groups try to get the public to believe that no adult women in their right mind would ever go into the sex business unless she was forced to do so, weather she knew it or not. They say that 100% of all sex workers are trafficking victims.

    They do this in order to label all men as sex offenders and wipe out all consensual prostitution. Which is what their real goal is. There is almost no one who challenges or questions them about their false beliefs. Therefore, the only voices you hear are of these extreme groups. These groups want to label all men as terrible sex offenders for seeing a willing adult sex worker. No one stands up to say this is foolish, the passive public says nothing.

  11. If you do any hard factual research and not listen to the government, media, and anti-prostitution groups, you will find that the victims of sex trafficking are mostly adult consensual prostitutes. Doing sex work of their own free will. The police and government will say the women are victims, but the women prostitutes won’t say they are victims, because there are not! The police and government won’t believe them and will force them to be “rescued” which means forcing them to do whatever the government tells them to do. So it is actually the government who are forcing the prostitutes.

  12. Howdy! This post couldn’t be written any better!
    Reading this post reminds me of my good old room mate! He always kept talking about this.
    I will forward this page to him. Pretty sure he will have a good read.

    Many thanks for sharing!

  13. Henry P. Belanger says:

    Its SEX Week, not labor week.

  14. I’m sorry… their sexual frustration =/= raping and molesting children and teens (boys and girls) under age who are trafficked here.

    This is not a matter of debate. Under 16/18 (depending on jurisdiction) is not consentual.

  15. Mostly young women are the ones who are trafficked… “female” is an adjective, by the way.

    I’ve done some research on this topic, there are some young men who are underage involved in prostitution domestically, but most of them are not associated with a pimp. They are mostly homeless youth who turn to that as a form of survival.

    As far as foreign nationals who are trafficked here for sex (not labor), they are almost all girls and young women, as are the majority of those domestically trafficked interstate by pimps.

  16. Frank411 says:

    Sil, I’ve asked this before, but the simple question has been removed, so I will ask it again. Sources for your assertions in your second and third paragraphs, please. As you have done research, please share the report and study citations.

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