Newsflash: You Don’t Need to ‘Take a Side’ in the Stewart-Pattinson Break-Up

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Joanna Schroeder is the type of working mom who opens her car door and junk spills out all over the ground. She serves as Executive Editor of The Good Men Project and is a freelance writer whose work has appeared on sites like xoJane, hlntv.com, and The Huffington Post. Joanna loves playing with her sons, skateboarding with her husband, and hanging out with friends. Her dream is to someday finish her almost-done novel and get some sleep. Follow her shenanigans on Twitter.

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  1. Criticizing cheating is one thing. Using a slur to do it is a different thing entirely.

    You don’t get to “not be slut shaming” by calling someone a slut for cheating anymore than you get to be “not racist” while using a racial slur to describe someone (of the appropriate race to the slur) who did something you don’t like.

  2. John Schtoll says:

    I have a ton of friends, work folks and relatives and I can honestly say one thing, not a single male that I know cares about this stuff, a bunch of my female friends etc, do they , they are on “team bella”, “team edward”, holy crap , seriously get a freaking life.

    These are the same people who almost lost their minds when princess diana died, hello, you didn’t know her and she didn’t know you and any info you had about her was created/filtered thru her PR team.

  3. Richard Aubrey says:

    The what?

  4. “Here’s why: You’re giving tacit approval to the use of a term that is a pejorative in reference to a woman’s sexuality.”

    Wait, are you saying trampires are real? Do they come from Trampsylvania? If K-Stew bites you, does it leave a trampire stamp?

  5. So, just out of curiosity, if a woman cheats on me, and that upsets me, is that okay? Or am a “woman-hater” for being upset?

    Also, if a man cheats, is he also immune to criticism or insults or remarks about his sexuality? That should certainly be the case in a fair and equal society.

    • Joanna Schroeder says:

      If you go back and look at my last article about this stupid thing, you’ll see that in the case of the GUY who was married and allegedly cheated on his wife, I said “don’t judge, leave him alone.”

      And that’s a bizarre extrapolation to say that the person who’s being cheated on can’t care? I said that wearing a tee shirt about it is stupid, beyond being lame, it builds upon the stereotype that women who are sexual are “tramps”.

      A fair analogy would be if. when Kobe Bryant admitted cheating on his wife, people had worn shirts that said, “Men are scum. Ask Vanessa Bryant.”

      I would be against that too.

      PS Is the phrase “woman hater” in this article anywhere?

      • “A fair analogy would be if. when Kobe Bryant admitted cheating on his wife, people had worn shirts that said, “Men are scum. Ask Vanessa Bryant.”

        I would be against that too.”

        Fair enough, then. I rarely see online forums depicting men’s POV in these issues, however. Or, if they do appear, they’re quickly shamed and ridiculed into irrelevance and/or nonexistence.

        The ones that last are the ones that gratify the points of view of women. I know men are like everyone else, doing what they have to in order to integrate and survive, but it gets a little annoying when some men want to see some of our real emotions out there.

        Incidentially, I don’t think I ever even implied that the word “woman-hating” appeared in the article.

        • You didn’t imply that the phrase appeared in the article, but you did imply — intentionally — that she was saying that anyone who supports Pattinson in this matter is a woman hater. That is pretty clear in your post. Stop trying to pretend you are somehow hard done by and get over yourself.

          • Dude. Robert Pattinson doesn’t need your support, he doesn’t want your support, and showing your support by calling people sluts and trampires is just stupid. Please get over yourself because nobody cares what you think of the whole debacle, much less which side you support.

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