Jim Nabors Marries at Age 82

He’s been with the same man for 38 years, and they’ve finally tied the knot. Oh, and apparently Jim Nabors is gay.

Back in the early 1970s, an urban legend sprung up that beloved TV comedian Jim Nabors had married Rock Hudson in a private ceremony. That was still cause for sniggering and dumb jokes in those days, so naturally it spread like wildfire. Fifteen years later, Hudson would publicly come out about his homosexuality, sadly not long before he succumbed to AIDS. Nabors, on the other hand, never commented on his personal life until just recently, when he and his longtime love Stan Cadwallader flew to Washington to get hitched.

Nabors and Cadwallader evidently met in 1975 in Honolulu, where Cadwallader was a firefighter, and have been together ever since. On a personal note, I have to say that I find it completely adorable whenever anyone gets married at an age like 82. It’s a time when too many people feel their lives are over and there’s nothing left to do but run out the clock, certainly it’s not an age to embark on a new adventure like marriage. And all right, after 38 years together it might not be the newest adventure, but I’m a romantic deep down, and I think that happy old couples are the sweetest thing ever. Congratulations to the new grooms, and may marriage bring them every joy.

There is at this time no word on whether other urban legends of the 1970s might be real, as Bigfoot and the Vanishing Hitchhiker declined to comment.

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Comments

  1. So, I’m hearing you say that someone disagreeing with your position deserves death? How does it promote your cause if you insist that those with other opinions not be allowed to breathe?

  2. Congrats and wishing you both the best!!!

  3. This is heartwarming! For those who do not know, Jim Nabors was also a singer. He had/has a fabulous voice.

  4. Congratulations!

  5. His coming out during the AIDS pandemic might have helped the gay community deal with the increased discrimination and hateful rhetoric we continue to suffer. We needed popular role models. He’s had a charmed life and is entitled to do whatever he wants. Just sayin.

    • AFineBlaqMan says:

      Listen, don’t put that on him. If he was lead to so I’m sure he would’ve oblige. Everyone don’t want to wear that badge, and who are you to assume he didn’t do what he could.. You don’t know his situation or if he did anything, or suffered himself. .. Rather he came out back then, or even been a voice wouldn’t have made a difference, to the discrimination and hate.. Jesus Christ himself couldn’t even do that, and he died so that we can live!
      And another thing, folks always saying what someone else should do, instead of just doing what they can do and stop worrying about rather someone else should or shouldn’t do… Just pray for him, and those that are in need of prayer and move on! Ijs

  6. Ioan Lightoller says:

    Jim and Stan, wish you all the best!

  7. Steve Waters says:

    Does anybody remember when Jim Neighbors would sing the national anthem at the LA Rams home games at the Colusium in the 1960’s? That was because he was married to the Rams quarterback at the time, Roman Gabriel !! True story, my dad’s Secretary went to their wedding!

  8. michael Pedicini says:

    If it disturbs you take two asprin, get a goodnights sleep and don’t marry your boyfriend

  9. Mary L Cassidy says:

    Wanted to add, to me marriage is a sacrament because I know when my husband and I married after five years together, something sacred entered into our relationship, though it was a civil ceremony in front of a judge. So whether you are 22 or 82 it is worth doing when you truly love someone. And every adult should have the right to marry his/her beloved.

  10. pbridge1300 says:

    Congratulations, Jim and Stan, best wishes, and many happy years together.

  11. JoanMarino Maser says:

    I think everyone knew Jim was gay, they chose to ignore it because they loved his music. My dad always told us Rock Hudson was gay, I think you can tell, but who cares, it is their life and if that makes them happy more power to them. Congratulations Jim and Stan, I know my parents if they were alive would say the same thing. We all enjoyed your music and acting talent.

  12. Sorry for my ignorance, I’m a Brit.:) but is this the chap that sings at the Indy 500?

    • Peg Carter says:

      He used to be in Gomer Pyle USMC. A silly TV show. He was on Andy Griffith show; another TV show. And he has the voice of an angel when he sings. I always knew he was gay. Didn’t impact my life at all.

    • Heather says:

      Yes – he would sing Back Home Again In Indiana! 🙂

  13. Steven Harrison says:

    Adorable? Life is over? Nothing left to do but run out the clock?
    This is a nice article about a celebration that happened a while ago but this writer’s choice of words is very poor and insulting. I have two friends past 90. One who still goes to work and the other who just enrolled in a computer class so that she can get a better job to afford a new car. My other friend in his mid 80s just decided to retire.
    I understand what this writer is trying to say but I think a more open view and less stereotyping would be in order; Especially when writing about a union that many choose to view in a narrow-minded manner with a great deal of stereotyping. Let’s not infantilize such long lives and use words like “adorable”.
    I’ve been a long time fan of Jim Nabors and still am 40 years later!

  14. By the way, that marriage happened toward the end of January in 2013, but it never hurts to wish them well.

  15. You never asked Bigfoot. He lives in vining MN. Runs a gas station and everything.

  16. Condescending towards elders much?
    “Adorable”?
    Those of us over 60 are just as interested in the world around us and willing to try new things as 20-somethings. At least in my experience…
    Congratulations to the newlyweds and the author should examine his ageist attitudes.

    • Easy there, Philip. This author was saying everything with a positive intent, that is quite clear. So maybe reexamine why you’re so sensitive but don’t project it on the folks here.

    • I see your point, Philip. MANY people over their 80’s and 90’s, let alone 60’s are living vibrant, fulfilling lives. I definitely don’t think the author was intending any slight, but I’m glad that you spoke up.

    • Congratulations, Philip. You have proven that older people are NOT all adorable.

    • I understand how you feel, Philip, since I immediately felt the same thing. There’s something very condescending in the word “adorable.” I’m also guessing that all the the people who think it’s fine to be unintentionally condescending to anyone over 60 are NOT over 60. Suppose the shoe were on the other foot and I were to say “I think all 30 year olds are just adorable!” How silly does that soundl? I don’t think the author intended the condescension, but he should have examined his language a little more carefully. Let’s leave “adorable” for babies and kittens on the net. Thanks for making that point, Philip, I thought you made it well.

  17. Terry Oelmann says:

    Congratulations Jim & Stan! I am FORMERLY from Indiana and LOVED it when you would come to the Indy 500, and am saddened that we will never see it sung there live again. After Indiana’s fiasco last week I hope you tell them you do not even want a recording of you singing “Back Home in Indiana” ever to be play’d there!

  18. What a mess this is rediculous nowhere should it be legal if they are gay and want to live that way I have no problem with it even though I can’t imagine but in no way should it be legal It’s wrong

    • Twofurbears says:

      In your eyes, My other half and I have been together for 25 years now. We love each other vary much. We got marred in 2011, Best thing we have ever done.

      • JoanMarino Maser says:

        Congratulations, hope you have a long happy marriage. Ignore what ignorant people say. judge not, yeah you be judged. You have already proven your love for each other, now you have put that in vows which everyone should have the right to do or not to do.

    • gaytexan says:

      William, in no way should someone as ignorant as you be allowed to breathe, much less vote. Keep your hatred and fear to yourself

    • Okay, William. Explain how it’s causing any harm to you or anyone else.

    • Starshadow says:

      If GLBTQ people pay taxes, william, then we should get the same (over a thousand) legal protections any other couple gets by marrying. It’s legal in a great many places, so your specious argument is null and void, and welcome to the wrong side of history.

      That out of the way, I wish both his husband and he long and happy lives together, and I’m very happy they can be married. Congratulations and blessings to the pair.

    • Connie D. says:

      why does this bother you? It doesnt affect your taxes or money!!! It damn well should be legal!

      38 years?!!!! And they called Britney Spears union of however long LEGAL (normal yet?!) Right on that he, like Uncle George Takei are finally getting their due! RIP to all gays who hid in secrecy until their deaths, ie Gertrude Stein, Lee Liberace, Rock Hudson, etc. They lived in HELL I only hope they can look down and rejoice at this milestone! Fianally GREAT NEWS! ooxx I never got to marry my partner, she passed away. We were together 40 years William.

    • Wrong is your opinion and if you don’t like it please don’t marry your boyfriend.

  19. Doesn’t the practice of sodomy cause global warming? (it’s a joke)

  20. TC Ryker says:

    Congratulations to the obviously happy couple.

  21. Well Gollllllllly!!!

  22. That is sweet. Good for them!

  23. That is nice news. I did laugh because I remember my (chrsitian missionary) parents talking about how he was a good christian based upon the christian songs he released back some time ago. He might a Xtian I suppose, but not my parents type.

  24. Elizabeth Jackson says:

    Jim Nabors & Stan were my neighbors when I lived in Kahala.Great people.very friendly;always talking to my surfer girlfriends and me on the beach.The first time I met him,he smiled and said,”How were the way-aves
    gur-urhls?”I was taken aback because he was J.N.&I grew up watching him on TV.I told him they were great & then said “You really do talk like that!”He then introduced us to Stan.They were really sweet.Used to see them a lot.My surfer girl group and I were just teenagers,but we were so happy for them.We used to say “now that’s true love!”It was the accent we couldn’t get over; not that he was gay.One of the kindest people ever.Mazel tov to him and Stan! <3

    • Connie D. says:

      I grew up with him too! Your message brought me to tears! LOVE IT! He is and always will be a gentleman! 38 years?!!!! And they called Britney Spears union of however long LEGAL (normal yet?!) Right on that he, like Uncle George Takei are finally getting their due!

      RIP to all gays who hid in secrecy until their deaths, ie Gertrude Stein, Lee Liberace, Rock Hudson, etc. They lived in HELL I only hope they can look down and rejoice at this milestone! Fianally GREAT NEWS! ooxx

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