You can leave yourself behind for another person before you realize you’ve done it…
From Ernie R. in response to Guys, Here are 16 Signs You’re in an Abusive Friendship:
I was stuck in one of those. You couldn’t be more right on. Guys with low self esteem are usually first surprised, then grateful for the “acceptance” and once completely enmeshed, left wondering where their own personhood and their own life and confidence went as they find themselves appeasing a “friend” who has managed to steal away their lives. It took years to get away, understand what happened, accept it and move on. And, because denial is so strong, over the years, one is tempted to reconnect for the sake of the good old days, of which in retrospect there weren’t that many and they weren’t that good. And they certainly weren’t the cost.
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