Hardest Things About Homeschool [Video]

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the timer went off and your break is
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over
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I’ll give you three more minutes the
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show will be real out here y’all
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schooling so many different people
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I don’t necessarily get to focus my
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attention on one person I haven’t
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mastered
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facilitating the different learning
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opportunities
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my mind automatically thinks algebraic
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unknown solving the equation but with
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the way that he was able to think about
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the problem a picture was a better idea
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getting these kids to think on their own
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is probably one of my greatest
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challenges and when there are so many
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different Minds that work in so many
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different ways sometimes the approach
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to take when helping them develop an
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understanding
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is like
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had that been someone else
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they may have been able to like just
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like in their brain it automatically
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would have been whatever and it would
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have been the opposite problem rather
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than like he would have got the correct
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answers and I’ve been like uh how did
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you get that
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and then he wouldn’t want to explain to
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me with Raya
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we have to let him leave otherwise it’s
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going to be a battle we have discovered
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that if he finishes all of math even if
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it’s just two things or even all of
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writing a grammar if it’s just one thing
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he gets a 10 minute break then he gets
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to come back and choose the next effect
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right now he has chosen to do music
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which is not
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productive
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but it’s productive because it is
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something that he has to do every day
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practice music
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[Music]
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can you play higher
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okay
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okay
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I love that Riot has taken
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um a lot of pride in playing the piano
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um
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it was something that it just seemed
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like he was kind of interested in and I
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know like music is something that really
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gets them going you know what I’m saying
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a lot of times even when he’s supposed
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to be working on his own
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um
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assignments or his own stuff for music
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he is working on his own songs that he’s
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writing himself
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however
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I feel like
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there’s a different order but we have to
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just let him go that is
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anywho
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done
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thank you
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86 1975 40 he missed one
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what did you get
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why does it matter what did you get
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why does that matter
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I’m always surprised when I hear
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what comes out of the kid’s mouth when
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I’m not around
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um
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I’m often like
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you thought he’s gonna get away with it
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like that’s what I just really be
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thinking of me even though he was lazy
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now let’s see if he lets me go over the
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ones he missed with him do you want to
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go over your test
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so we have been sick there are six of us
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in this family
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seven
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including the doctors
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and I don’t know who brought the
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sickness into the house but because the
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sickness had to make it through all six
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of us we have been sick from probably
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over two years
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I’m saying all that to say that we are
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behind two weeks of school and we are
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trying to catch up so Theo now has to
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redo an assignment so that he can
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understand
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see here’s the tell him what’s the
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problem
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I’m the problem no
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oh
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yeah
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homeschooling is hard work
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being a mother in and of itself is hard
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work being a stay at home
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component it just kind of starts to
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compile it’s one of those things where I
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know that there are certain rhythms and
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there are certain routines and systems
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that I have to have in place and be
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consistent about enforcing in order to
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make the days easier but I’m not always
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great at that however I do think there
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is a
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extreme amount of Grace that I have to
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learn to extend to myself and to my kids
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because without that
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I would have quit a long time ago do you
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want to talk about tall tales sure okay
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Tall Tales are stories that are not true
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he had long legs as tall as the trees in
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his backyard every day he wanted to come
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into his home but he was too tall now
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you have to write your own tall tale
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which I think you’re going to do an
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excellent job at you’re pretty good with
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your imagination so you need to be
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thinking about a character
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you need to have one hero
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I don’t know who’s gonna be right here
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who’s your hero going to be me okay
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right what’s happening I shoot fire from
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my face I tell the future there we go
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okay I would call the character Beau
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instead of Uriah hey
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you know what we should have done
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we’re gonna be at the dragon’s Castle
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fighting
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the hero farted the the villain
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thank you the hero said the smell was as
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bad as a thousand stars
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so the heroes is a death part yeah
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basically hot dog please
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it sounds great right it’s actually boys
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even in the hard moments there are some
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bright spots like today watching Raya
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get excited about his tall tale story
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was super sweet because I know that he
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is someone who enjoys reading and he’s
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got a really good imagination like one
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of the things that Raya does well is he
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plays with his brother and sister with
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the action figures and the dinosaurs and
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the Barbies and he’s got a really good
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imagination and the way that he enjoys
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reading I could totally see him becoming
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an author at some point in his future so
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watching his him kind of brighten up
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during that portion of our lesson was
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super sweet I feel like the thing that
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keeps me persevering in
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my homeschool Journey
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is the ability to get to know
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and watch my children’s brains work in a
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different way I will not lie and tell
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you that it’s easy with four kids it’s
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challenging which is why I’m super
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grateful for Lexi being here to help me
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I would say to the Future Yvette it’s
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worth it
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one day at a time one lesson at a time
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I would say don’t
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to give up on yourself
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you got this even within the challenges
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there are
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some Sweet Moments I recently went to a
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homeschooling conference and there was a
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panel of women that were speaking about
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homeschooling and one of the women said
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they only have one mother
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you know they can have several different
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teachers and so I think sometimes even
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though you start down a journey not
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being afraid to like consider other
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options for example I have Lexie
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sometimes teach lessons or help
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facilitate the kids getting their
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assignments completed we’re doing a
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hybrid model right now so two days a
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week they go to another teacher
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and every year of homeschooling has
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looked different for us so I feel like
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next year could be completely different
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but
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I would just say that like if you are
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feeling discouraged on your
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homeschooling Journey find some ways
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um
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to relieve yourself of some of those
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responsibilities and enlarge your
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capacity
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there are co-ops there are drop-off
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options there are different Charters
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that are homeschool charters for
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homeschool families there are lots of
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things out there to explore in order to
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make it easier for yourself and more
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enjoyable for your children so that you
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can show up with a larger capacity and
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more joy love patience and kindness in
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your heart you still have food in your
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mouth did you finish eating foreign
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subscribe
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for this entire season I think
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I’ve learned
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that
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we my wife and I are in two different uh
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places you know what I mean and we’re
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both in
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you know challenging season it doesn’t
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mean they’re bad Seasons or whatever is
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just challenging like we’re having to
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discover new levels and new gears that
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we didn’t know we had no problem solving
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solutions that we didn’t have we had to
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lean on the community more more
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guys know that in this time
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um we would love I would love to see a
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lot more people being more patient with
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themselves I know how difficult the
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holiday season can be and how much
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we can overthink a lot of our
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relationships uh complicate a lot of our
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processes to fit in festive things even
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if we don’t feel like it and so so be
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gentle with yourself give yourself
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permission to be cautious and gentle
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with you those of you who are new here
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you’re probably expecting some holiday
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content and we’re going to postpone our
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regular schedule to give you guys some
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holiday stuff right so you’ll get
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updates on Theo his hockey stuff you’ll
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get updates on you know what Ryan’s
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gonna do and a nice development and more
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homeschool content and all that stuff
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um after the holiday season because
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right now we have so many dope videos
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about to drop right now
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um I’m super excited I’m interested to
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know how you guys like the new uh
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documentary format where we sit down and
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we do interviews during the actual video
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I’m really excited about that too I
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think that’s dope
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um things are progressing along in my
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office and stuff like that but
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um yeah I want to defense space with you
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guys and let you guys know that we do
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have holiday content coming soon happy
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holidays
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