Being boring with someone isn’t always a bad thing. It is probably a test of time in a cohesive trusting relationship when you get to sit alone in silence with someone without feeling bothered to say anything. To most, this is an awkward silence. However, to me, this is a sign of self-confidence that you can sit quietly without the constant reassurance of someone’s attention to make yourself feel better. You can really say everything without saying anything. An awkward silence isn’t awkward until you make it awkward. You can simply just enjoy being next to each other by enjoying each other’s company while you both scroll through TikToks on your phones sharing memes.
At this point in your relationship, you both already have gotten past the awkward small talk and know intimate details about each other that others don’t already know. Like how your partner takes their coffee — if you know that complicated order at Starbucks that you enjoy so much really says how much your partner pays close attention to detail about you. It’s the small things that count.
You can stand being around them all of the time. This means you don’t mind their presence near you in daily life activities. In fact, you anticipate their coming home and actually enjoy sharing stories and moments with them.
You still enjoy seeing their face in the morning. You actually wake up excited to see them the next day. As a single person, you get the perks of sharing the bed all to yourself. You don’t have to worry about making the bed for anyone and you can sleep in for as long as you want without bothering anyone.
Personally, my sleep schedule is a mess as I suffer from insomnia and do my best creative work at night. So I might stay up til 3 or 4 a.m. writing, editing photos, or composing a song until I get sleepy enough to wake up at 9 or 10 a.m the next morning.
However, marrying someone you enjoy waking up to see their face is so nice because you know you will make great memories with them the next day. You already have so many fun things to talk about. So, the anticipation of sharing new moments with your love bird is all the more enjoyable.
You don’t mind seeing them in sweats. We all know that we put on our best foot forward when meeting someone new. We are all dolled up to impress our new potential beau and once you snag him or her you begin to get comfortable. It’s nice to be attracted to someone even when they are dressed down in sweats. It shows you can be yourself and comfortable sharing intimate moments at home together.
In my opinion, these are the best times to recline and scroll through TikToks together. This is the best time I enjoy by myself finding memes that make me belly laugh. I do this for hours when I don’t have anyone else to talk to. So finding someone who gets my sense of humor is essential for a happy marriage — at least that’s what I think in my opinion.
So, finding someone to be boring with isn’t all that bad. Life has many moments in them that include exciting and quiet moments. We can’t expect to fill all those moments with meaningless conversation. It’s nice to just sit in quiet together sometimes processing everything that has already happened together in the day. It’s nice to know someone so well that you can comfortably sit together and co-exist happily.
I just want you to hold my hand and be with me. Let’s be boring together. It’s okay.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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