He’s always been ‘out of sight, out of mind.’ Yet now she’s moving & he’s considering making the long distance work… Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt asks the tough questions…
Question: My girlfriend is taking a job far away. I’ve always been an ‘out of sight, out of mind’ kind of guy. I don’t want to hurt her feelings and it’s not that I don’t care about her, and I also don’t want to lose her… I’m confused. What should I do?
Answer: Sounds like you’re being asked to dig deep. If she’s important, if there’s a future possibility here, if she’s worth sitting in the fire of discomfort and staying committed to her, this could be a GREAT growth opportunity for you to learn how to delay gratification, how to be disciplined, how to cultivate something important.
I remember the first time I wanted to make a long distance relationship work, I went vibrator shopping with my mom. Seriously 😉 When you want anything from a woman, a job, a dream… the Universe will test you and you have the chance to rise to the occasion.
Now the question becomes, is she worth it? To you? Does she inspire you to be the best YOU ever? Are you willing to dig deep and evolve to give this the best chance of success?
If not, please be kind and courageous and set her free to find a man that KNOWS she’s the bees knees so he can claim her. Don’t keep her from a fear based place… choose her from certainty that you desire the best possible future with her.
And if you don’t know the answer to my questions, perhaps it’s time to do some deep inner work so you can hear your instincts and knowing… so you can learn to trust yourself, your decisions and your choices. Nothing’s worse than being out of control, spinning in your head, doubting yourself and second guessing yourself. That only gets worse with time and is something you want to nip in the bud and find your Truth.
My complementary report www.GetHerToSayYes.com is a great start to end the spinning and drop into your knowing. Many men see the return on their investment of getting connected to their knowing early in life so they don’t go through divorces, loss of careers, health issues… these men work with me privately in a series of 6 sessions or a two day intensive to get on track in a lasting way. If that’s the biggest gift you could give your power, freedom and worth personally and professionally, apply for a complementary strategy session at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect.
Bottom line? You KNOW somewhere inside you what is right and true for YOU. Choose THAT. And if you can’t access it, call me. I couldn’t hear ME until I worked with my coach. We all have blindspots. And Kings have advisors. (and Queens xoxo) No need to go life alone, ever. Sending so much love, Allana xoox