Remember when your mom or dad touched you roughly with hands or words? This simple glance back puts us in an emotional connection with our whole life instantly, and specifically serves up experiences that taught us about touch.
Every instant of experience touches all experience. In this amazing mix of infinite interaction, each of us has access to guidance on how to proceed. In dealing with our children, regardless of age, we answer this question repeatedly: “Right now, how am I touching my child?”
Most of our touch is mental. We think about others much more than we physically touch them. Choosing to touch with loving thought leads immediately to the wisdom of loving acceptance. Any deviation from compassionate kindness is thought based on suffering, pain.
Remember when your mom or dad touched you roughly? If you haven’t forgiven that experience yet, you are on the brink of revealing a depth of complete acceptance which erases differences with complete, loving acceptance.
For decades I fearfully remembered my father’s backhand from the front seat of the car, reaching back to sting my cheek. Today, after raising children and re-experiencing that moment of intolerance rising in me, the availability of understanding dad’s pain simply dissolves it and returns my awareness to this moment, which loves and accepts his pain, my pain, and the pain in the world.
I choose to connect only with loving acceptance, which is the seat of infinite wisdom.
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This post was previously published on The Father Connection.
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