Dale Vaughn would like to take a moment to make a statement on behalf of men everywhere. Good men, gentlemen, Renaissance men are not a myth from some long lost idyllic bygone era. They are everywhere.
Okay ladies, how many of you have ever heard yourselves say something like this, “where are all the gentlemen in the world?”
I know a lot of wise women from all age brackets who have lamented the loss of an era of sophisticated, respectful, powerful, well-mannered men… and I have known some women who, out of anger or frustration or trauma, blame the whole of mankind for an apparent lack of awareness and depth in the male sex. I’d like to mount a quick, anecdotal defense of my sex, and hopefully provide a speck of hope for any women who share these feelings. Guys, I need you to back me up by being the awesome men you know you can be.
Let me start by saying this: I hear these lamentations and your concern is reasonable and deep. There can be no doubt, the world desperately needs more good men to stand up and be accounted. Having said that, I think there are millions of good men out there today. I am convinced there are men all around us who choose to represent a mature, kingly masculinity.
I know there are good men all around the globe who treat women with respect, and who have seen their sexual fulfillment and relational empowerment grow proportionately with their understanding and appetite for mature femininity.
I have witnessed men who righteously defend the weak, lead with dignity, and openly show the depths of their love for their sons and daughters.
I have heard stories from men who still seek adventure in the world’s peaks and valleys—explorers who continue to find new frontiers in the world and in themselves.
I have felt the power of a room full of highly honed intellectuals pouring through the clutter of truth and mystery with the unconscious hope of glimpsing something like God… and consequently becoming better men.
I have known young men who sought the counsel and initiation of respected elders; and I have known experienced men who accepted the privilege and responsibility of mentoring young men, building a modern masculinity from the foundation of ancient manhood.
I have read about good men throughout the ages, their honorable imprints left behind in legend and literature for me to piece together and distill into palpable lessons in life and living.
I have contemplated in stillness, I have run in the race, I have been purposefully alone and powerfully teamed with peers. I have given and received the gift of wise counsel… and I know I have only experienced a tiny fraction of the world’s best experiences.
These men exist. Good men. Gentlemen. Renaissance Men. They are not a myth from some long lost idyllic bygone era. I would argue that there have never been more good men in the world than there are now.
So if you are a Renaissance Man, a balanced man, a gentleman, a good man… stand up and find your pack. And if you are looking for a good man in your life, ladies, you gotta hang out where the good men are.
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