You know what I really don’t like? When somebody I speak with or speak to blames me for their choices in life.
Now, we can call that person a victim.
We can call that person weak.
We can call that person not evolved.
But in reality, at first I feel a sense of compassion for somebody that chooses to blame other people for their choices that they make in life. And then, they expect other people to bail them out of their choices in life.
First off, the way I feel about it, if anybody makes poor choices in life, I don’t want to bail them out.
I have no interest in bailing them out. It’s like bailing out a child over and over again, except they’re an adult.
It’s an enabling behavior, and a lot of people will get into that enabling relationship. Once somebody knows that they’ll be able to find their way to get bailed out, they’ll continue to get in relationships that will enable them.
I remember when I was younger, a friend of mine was constantly getting bailed out by his parents.
No matter what decisions that he made in life or choices that he made, his parents were consistently bailing them out. Get into a financial pickle, and his parents would just bail him out time and time again.
He would always know that no matter what happened, his parents would bail him out. He made choices based on that.
He barely worked, and when he did work, he was just fooling himself because really, deep down, he knew that he’d always have somebody to bail him out.
But how do you grow as a person if you don’t acknowledge the poor choices you’ve made in life?
Eventually, you’re going to be up against somebody who’s not going to bail you out anymore, and your poor choices are going to come back and literally haunt you.
Now, we’ve all made poor choices in life.
We’re all just human beings having a human experience for the very, very first time as the person that we are. So we’ve all made bad choices.
So today, look at your life. You’re only in the predicament you’re in right now, whatever it might be, because of the choices that you have made on a daily basis.
There’s no one else to blame for your life.
If you’re in poor financial situation, it’s your own fault. It’s your own choices that you’ve made.
If you’re in a bad relationship or you’re getting no where in life, you made that choice. You made the choice to stay in that relationship. You made the choice to be in that relationship.
If you’re at a job that you don’t really like, that doesn’t satisfy you, you made that choice to stay there. Nobody else did.
You notice the pattern here?
You’re in your life right now because of the choices that you have made in your life.
All the choices that you have made, nobody else made for you. If you’re in a financial mess, it’s your own fault, nobody else’s fault. If you’re in a bad relationship, it’s your own fault, nobody else’s fault. If you’re in a job that you hate, it’s your own fault, not anybody else’s fault at all.
It’s the choices we make day in and day out that really constitute what our life is like.
You can play the victim and blame other people, but in reality, it’s your choices that got you where you are. Eventually, the universe is going to teach you some lessons, and you’re not going to be bailed out anymore.
Your choices, your life.
Previously published on DavidWygant.com
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