A bunch of shiny links below the cut to all the interesting things people who aren’t me are talking about in the Series of Tubes.
Captain Awkward teaches us how to solve relationship problems with one handy flowchart.
Trigger warning for descriptions of abuse and boundary violations and mentions of rape. An interesting post about why I’m a feminist. Have we settled on “trans exclusionary radical feminist” for those radfem assholes that give honest radical feminists like myself a bad name? I like “radscum” myself. It sounds so beautiful when spat.
Trigger warning for descriptions of violent threats, discussion of abuse. A woman of color reflects on reporting her mentally ill son to the police. Bittersweet, sad, and painfully honest.
Trigger warning for description of homophobic violence. A HuffPo article about a hate crime directed against a gay man and the first prosecution of a person for a hate crime against a gay man. I mourn the death of one of my brothers, but I hope he receives justice.
Trigger warning for description of suicide. A seven-year-old boy kills himself because he was bullied, in part because he was the only boy in a family with eight women. Sexism matters. Sexism kills.
All right, I’ve looked at all those trigger warnings, and it’s time for some good news. Female soldiers challenge the ground combat rule which excludes women from combat. Frankly, that rule is sexist against everyone: it’s rooted in misogynistic assumptions about what women are capable of (nothing) and how well men can keep from fucking every woman in their combat unit (not well), it leads to men being in more danger than women, and it keeps women from being recognized when– as often happens in a war like Iraq with no front lines– they themselves are in as much danger as the men. I wish the female soldiers the best of luck.
New developments in stop-and-frisk (the search of people on streets, directed almost exclusively against men of color) in New York City: a judge has declared that the stop-and-frisk cases are a class-action lawsuit, and the police commissioner has proposed that there ought to be more training. Suuuuuuuure there ought to be. Because this is definitely not a structural problem in the NYPD! Nope, it’s just a few bad apples. Just like all racism is just because of a few men in Klan robes.
Louisiana is the world’s prison capital, and it’s not making many steps towards ending recidivism or preventing crime before it even starts. Prisoners, most of them nonviolent, are treated as commodities used to get more money, not human beings. This is the prison-industrial complex in action.
Oil field truckers are pressured into working 20-hour shifts and often die driving home. Fatality rates are seven times the national average. Deaths on the job are incredibly gendered: 92% of people who die on the job are male. Stronger occupational safety regulation is a masculist issue.
Trigger warning for brief mentions of suicide, violence, and domestic violence. The F Word, an excellent UK feminist website, explains that it’s not feminism that hurts men. Also they mention us. I love it when people mention us. (I do have to point out that “it’s mostly men who commit violence against men” DOESN’T MEAN IT’S UNRELATED TO SEXISM. Christ. If that were true, female genital mutilation would be unrelated to sexism because the cutters are often female. Other than that, good piece.)
The New Statesman has had a themed week about men’s rights. I have yet to read all the posts myself, but the material they have looks very interesting.
Trigger warning for child sexual abuse. The ultra-Orthodox Jewish community shuns reporters of child sexual abuse. I hate humans. You guys suck. I’d quit the human race and become a dolphin, but I hear they have some rapey shit too.
Trigger warning for rape and abuse. The International Campaign to Stop Rape and Gender Violence in Conflict. Good shit. Check it out. The fabulous Jaclyn Friedman, editor of Yes Means Yes, author of What You Really Really Want, and general awesome person, is working with them.
Trigger warning for brief mention of suicide. Ontario is working on passing Bill 13, which would ban bullying against queer youth in the wake of a young man’s suicide. Get on that shit, Ontario.
Shane and Tom loved each other. And then Tom died and Shane lost all his rights because, as a gay couple, they were not able to marry. Further adventures in the “Please make our doomed romantic love not doomed anymore! LOOK AT HOW SAD AND ADORABLE WE ARE” school of fighting queerphobia?
Trigger warning for description of violence. Also from Womanist Musings: an openly gay teen suspended for using a Taser in self-defense. Includes the following sentence: “If you wear female apparel, then kids are kids and they’re going to say whatever it is that they want to say.” FUCK YOU principal dude! Men should have the right to show up in school in a fucking pink tutu if they want, and no one should be able to say shit about it, much less be violent. Equal rights for men!
Trigger warning for descriptions of rape and abuse. A soldier raped by his fellow soldiers in a hazing ritual. Gah. Fuck humanity.
Sociological Images asks whether drug courts are the solution to the drug war. Although they appear to help, just like the rest of the justice system, they are systematically biased against men and people of color. And the conclusions that they prevent recidivism may be overstated.
Trigger warning for discussion of violence. Apparently a Florida A&M student wanted to be hazed in the hazing that led to his death. Fuck you, you victim-blaming assholes.
Finally, Companion Cube is adorable.