Have You Seen My Mangina?

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About Tom Matlack

Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.


  1. Mangina: a. A male appologist for the feminist movement. b. A male who promotes the feminist agenda of enslavement and subjuation of men. c. A man who betrays his kind.

  2. Peter-Andrew:Nolan(c) says:

    Hey Tom?
    I read your next article above. In my prior comment to you I wrote as follows:

    “Why don’t you do some articles about how ‘good men’ like me get hated on and abused endlessly by so called ‘good women’ for having the termerity to tell our wives that are no longer welcome to steal from the family finances and lie to their husbands?

    And how about you write some articles about how ‘good men’ get 5% of the proceeds of their 25 years of labour while ‘wifey’ gets 95% and how ALL the women support that? How about you write some articles about the crimes being committed in the Family Courts against ‘good men’? How about you tell the young men: “5% is the new 50% if you are a man.”

    How about you challenge the ‘good men’ to start openly calling western women the liars and hypocrites they have so thoroughly shown themselves to be?

    How about the ‘good men’ start holding women accountable for their actions? As we do men.

    We do all this? THEN we might get somewhere.”

    I don’t see ANY of these things discussed in this article. Do you? I mean? Am I missing all these points? Are they hiding somewhere?

    Instead you do what manginas always do. ‘Obfiscate’ and ‘avoid’ the real issues at hand. You responded with a brain dead article aboue ‘what is a mangina’ when you could have easily bought “Men are Better Than Women” by Dick Masterson and had it explained to you in private.

    Or you could have gone over to http://www.menarebetterthanwomen.com/forums and had any of the 1800 or so members there explain your manginaness to you.

    How about you talk about the REAL issues of massive levels of crimes being committed against ‘good men’? Just a suggestion, eh?

  3. Peter-Andrew:Nolan(c) says:

    Here you go Tom. This is where allowing manginas in management gets you.


    Women are allowed to commit the crimes of perjury, extortion, kidnapping and theft ENDLESSLY. But two men have a PRIVATE conversation that is recorded and the women are all ‘upset’ and the men need to lose their jobs because they are ‘sexist’.

    Men like YOU support this Tom. And you know it.

    If the grrrrrllls are so empowered? Why are they so ‘upset’ at words while telling men they should ‘man up’ when they ruin our lives by committing crimes against us back by a tyrannical state that daily violates the Magna Carta?

    Did the women never hear ‘sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me’. It’s about time brain dead manginas like you woke up to what is really going on, retrieved you balls from your wifes purse, and chose to defend your children from a state that is totally out of control and is stealing property off men like it’s going out of fashion.

    You have two boys you say. Do you know what alimony or child support is? Nothing but stealing. Men like you promote the idea your sons can be robbed of all they have ever worked for for no better reason than wifey committed adultery and prefers the new ‘thug’ to her husband. Vows mean nothing to women and manginas.

    THAT is what YOU support by being a mangina Tom. You support a system of slavery and robbery for your children when they become men. Well done.

  4. Wow. I feel like the mangina because Joel Stein, a self-proclaimed Nancy, used the word “cunt” and I said “c word.”

    Tom isn’t advocating the pussification of America. He’s fighting the douchification of the American man. Pop culture (“the media”) manages to portray men as rods, doofuses and jags. On prime time TV, a number of the comedic characters are hapless men dragged around by their ball-busting wives whom they can’t leave because the husbands have out-punted their coverage in terms of looks. On reality TV, the cool dudes are borderline sociopaths who will do or say anything to drag some club trick back to their smash room. Are all guys really like that?

    Esquire is a middle brow magazine who seeks to appeal to the greatest common factor in men. Apparently, it’s boobs. By that calculus, some of us like hot rods, some of us like politics, some of us like video games but all of us like the female body (sorry, 95% of us). And that’s great to beat off to but not someone to actually “love.”

    I do disagree with a few of Tom’s stances, for instance, I know a few models who are interesting ladies. And his replacement list isn’t my cup of tea either (I’d rather jam honey up my culo and squat on a fire ant hill than hang out with Millionaire Matchmaker). But I appreciate the sentiment that we’re doing ourselves a disservice by perpetuating the bro-ed out stereotype of being a bunch of walking hard-ons who spend more time chanting “show us your tits” than thinking “how can I leave this shit hole a better place?”

    We all know that character (or whatever intangible that you personally dig) goes further than a pretty face and great figure, because eventually you get tired of fucking even the sexiest of bodies.

    Esquire is a fine magazine but the question remains, is a “man at his best” just fantasizing about sexing up seemingly vacuous women? Even Playboy interviewed Ayn Rand with the idea that there was more to being a well-rounded man than staring at a broad’s ample front porch.

    And, for the record, tucking your junk is pretty hilarious even if you don’t add, “I’d fuck me.”

    Let me know if I missed the point.

    • Tom Matlack says:

      Tom you got the point perfectly. BTW I wasn’t holding up my list as anything but my own twisted preferences. I am sure you have your own list of interesting women in the world, without my girl the matchmaker on it. Part of what I was doing with women like her and Chelsea and Gaga is to say that they completely do not accept the superficial model of womanhood and sex. They make it cool to come right out and say what sex is all about from the female perspective. God only knows Gaga and Chelsea are pretty screwed up in any number of personal ways, but I really respect them for that, giving my daughter permission to have a different model of female sexuality.

      • Yeah, no matter how screwed up they are, you still “respect” them. The fact that you can’t manage that same respect for men is what makes you a mangina.

    • He should fight the “douchification of the American man” by saying something. Direct and clear, that’s what’s missing. Appeal to us average guys who aren’t that subtle. There’s nothing wrong with subtle satire, just leave us dogs a bone. What do you mean?

  5. What does that even mean? Put this on a T-shirt!


    -A male feminist. A man who is overly concerned with women’s issues to the point of complacency or contempt for those of his own gender.

    -Caused by extreme need to seek approval from females to the point of eradicating his own self and becoming a servant eunuch.

  6. This article should have been called “mangina dentata”. :)

    Plus, speaking as a trans guy – I’ve got a real, actual, right-here-in-my-underwear mangina, and it’s not doing anything to make me more female (despite the days when I wish it would). The word is just another tedious way for macho boors to belittle femininity and deny emotionality to men.

  7. Hemi Yemi says:

    Wow, kinda scary when you think about it.


  8. If you are a mangina, does that make me a chick’a dick.?

  9. he should smell it too.

  10. I have to say Tom – this is one of the best piece’s I have read on GMP (and there have been many.) I love the ability to not take oneself so seriously. That is missing in a lot of the responses, vitriol, talking at, reactions, arguments, etc all over the GMP site. Humor! Talk about a manly quality! WTG

  11. I agree with peter. Matlack is doing the same socon routing for trying to “Stop the douchification of men.” If we’re acting like douuches or dropping out of society or whatever, it’s because we know there’s nothing for us. The feminist nest of vipers reduce our status to little more than ATM machines and punching bags, and we’re sick of it. If you meet a boy who has to pay child support to a 30 year old woman who raped hm and got preganant, are you going to give him a “good man” lecture while he tries to meet impossible demands?

  12. I enjoyed this story, mostly because I read it as satire. (oh God I hope it is satire) nobody could be that obtuse as to look at the term mangina and look for a literal definition. (ie: tucking your junk)

    Here’s a simple test to see if you are a mangina…
    Write an article on gender issues and men. If the majority of positive comments you receive are from women, and the negative comments are from men…you are a mangina.

    The Peter Hunsinger quote “I am a mangina because I always clear my golf dates with my wife’s schedule before I book them.” it’s a great example of a mangina. but not the definition. If he does this to be considerate, that’s great – a marriage of equality and partnership – If he does this because he need to ask permission or to avoid conflict with whatever the wife had planned for him to do that day, that’s not great – not equality and not a partnership, but a great example of appeasing.

    As for the “C-word”…I (and most men I know) find the use of that word abhorrent , and its use isn’t an issue of gender, it’s an issue with upbringing, like a person who drops the F-word like it’s punctuation.

  13. Transhuman says:

    Some people are less forgiving of differing opinions and may, from time to time, assign insulting epithets to their debating partners. Some men who use this term have been deeply hurt by women whom they loved and have very little time for men who appear to support their ex-spouse’s misbehaviour. While I understand it, I don’t agree with it. If you truly find an enemy then take the time to learn from them rather than pigeonholing them; one’s opponents in life will teach you things friends would never dream of.

  14. This is one of the many reasons I love reading Matlack’s pieces.

  15. Peter Houlihan says:

    Thats bloody hilarious. :D Good writin’

    I think the whole mangina thing stems from the same place as the idea of a “class traitor.” Somehow I feel more insulted by Hugo Schwyzer’s articles (sorry Hugo) than I would of a woman posting the same stuff. After all, he has a penis too, hes supposed to get it. But I do my best to tuck that feeling away, its not rational, people are entitled to their point of view (even if I think they’re wrong) and it just helps deepen the partisan nature of gender politics (which isn’t something I want).

  16. “The blamers and haters (male and female) can’t figure out why they are not happy, so they get stupid, and blame something outside themselves. Suck it up and admit that you are your own problem, and work on being happy—that’s what a man does. That’s what a woman does.”

    This is timeless.

  17. “gender-traitor”? Wtf? Writer is wack.


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