I Am Ronin

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Jackie Summers is an author and entrepreneur. His blog F*cking in Brooklyn chronicles his quest to become a person worthy of love. His company, Jack From Brooklyn, Inc. houses his creative and entrepreneurial enterprises. Follow him on Twitter @jackfrombkln and friend him on Facebook


  1. Jameseq says:

    great piece, you lyrically laid out your thinking at this time.
    a wonderful read

  2. HelixLuco says:

    it’s normal to feel lonely or that your potential is going to waste, i think just about everyone does to some degree, so what’s the point of trying to connect your feelings with some weird fetishised version of the past when you could be using them to build a sense of empathy with the people around you?

  3. Rosanne says:

    As usual – an amazing read.!! Thank you. The question is : what is holding you back ??? In NYC, there must be many many women who are so thirsty for the man you describe – Authentic, Present and ALL IN.

  4. Oh, Jackie, although I don’t identify myself as any sort of warrior, I feel the same way. And although Roseanne (above) is correct, there MUST be someone out there! – how do you find that person? We are all of us looking for love, some of us must certainly define it in the same way, so why do we not find each other? Unfortunately, those of us with a strong sex drive who are also looking for satisfaction in all other areas – soulful connections, time spent together laughing, cooking, playing, and YES those times in bed or other designated areas (sometimes best when NOT in the bed!)- we have the most difficulty being single. We are hungry, so hungry, for so much more than anonymous sex! It’s so unfair, we are sexy, successful, educated, fun, talneted, and single!!?? WTF? Let’s make a date to drink some sorel and commiserate….. – Alexa Maxwell

  5. Dinomax says:

    Well put, dude! I never saw things that way, but it is an apt metaphor. The desire to be connected trumps any temporary thrill that the casual scene can give..

  6. There are times in my life, in my marriage, when I feel the hunger pangs of sexual conquest to feed my ego. Where I wonder what it must be like to be free, sexually, romantically to pursue anyone on any given night, a woman in line at the market, at the bookstore or at work. I feel that I have chosen to be constricted by making my lifelong commitment to one woman only.
    And then I read something like this piece. I take a second look and realize I have and enjoy what you long to share with one woman only. It’s a funny thing that the ‘grass is always greener’ mentality pervades no matter how consciously we reiterate the sentiment within our own mind. I guess we can’t help ourselves wanting what we don’t have despite the fact that we’ve chosen someone already and have found satisfaction wth that choice. Maybe we really do just want it all.

  7. wellokaythen says:

    Kind of an awkward metaphor, seems to me. As you mentioned, a very strict interpretation of samurai honor would say that ronin are not supposed to exist. Some samurai would say that to be samurai by definition is to have a lord, so being a ronin is no to be samurai. Most daimyo ignored that issue when then needed to hire mercenaries to fight their rivals. In practice, the powerful samurai were glad that there were ronin around.

    If you’re looking for a woman to be your daimyo, you are looking for a woman to be your absolute boss, with the power to order you to kill yourself. Not quite egalitarian.

    (Technically, the daimyo were the upper-most aristocracy. You might be bound to a lord who was not a daimyo. The daimyo and Shogun were also samurai.)

    In this metaphor, who are the peasants? As a ronin you generally had more rights than peasants and could eviscerate them if they were too uppity. That sounds quite empowering.

    Good news, though: samurai were not supposed to work in menial jobs. They were financially supported by everyone else. They were not supposed to worry about a paycheck. If your “samurai skills” refers to your “lovemaking skills,” remember that samurai were duty bound to keep practicing their skills so they wouldn’t be rusty. So, I’m thinking one-night stands would be the equivalent of practicing with a wooden sword – the more you do, the better you will be!

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