Golf: “Time Suck” to Avoid #1

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About Scott Behson

Scott Behson is a Professor of Management at Fairleigh Dickinson University, a busy involved dad, and an overall grateful guy. He runs the www.FathersWorkandFamily.com blog dedicated to helping fathers better balance work and family and encouraging more supportive workplaces, and also writes for Harvard Business Review, The Huffington Post, and, most recently, Time. He lives in Nyack, NY with his wife, Amy, and son, Nick. Contact him @ScottBehson on twitter.

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  1. Richard Aubrey says:

    Can’t stand golf. Baseball on television always puts me to sleep. Golf, being an order of magnitude more boring and more pointless offends me to the extent of keeping me awake. That’s in case some other clown gets hold of the remote and wants to watch that stuff.
    That said, people define what’s important. Golfers, for the most part, need to be socially adept to at least a minimum in order to get a round with somebody,anybody. Got to have money and a stable lifestyle or…can’t golf. Can’t afford it. Can’t arrange schedules in advance. Don’t have wilder ambitions like caving or skydiving.
    IOW, golfers are pretty normal, middle of the road folks.
    In my experience, golfers usually come from fairly reasonable, stable family structures whose kids aren’t ignored to any great extent.
    A column I read–verified with a couple of folks in the shrink business–made a different point: If you–father/husband–are not seen as inconveniencing the rest of the family for your own fun from time to time, they will eventually accord you the respect due a booger on the floor. They’re not being mean. It’s absolutely normal and inescapable. Golf is cheaper–depending on how you work it–than, say Civil War reenacting, and doesn’t take an entire weekend plus. IOW, golf is a better way of maintaining one’s position in the family than rock climbing. And if you live in, say, Iowa, you have to leave the state to do to climb real rocks–or for that matter, do spelunking, afaik– which takes time and money. But they have lots of flat spaces for golf courses.
    My wife suggested that, if golf were replaced by bowling, with all the money and time and social cachet, we’d be seeing those ugly bowling alleys all over the place, instead of beautifully maintained green places. So there’s that.
    But the primary reasons for golf are “saw-sharpening”–and inconveniencing, and if you’re lucky, annoying the family so they continue to think of you as an actual person.

    • Hi Richard- Thanks for reading and for the comment.

      I agree dads need their own time, for mental and physical health- and while I hadn’t thought of it, I agree with you on the “doormat” issue.

      I’m pro “me-time”- just in moderation.

      Also, I’m sure you see that this article was mostly tongue-in-cheek and meant as much for humor as for advice.

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