Marital Rating Scale, Circa 1930

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Lu Fong was a staff writer and blog editor for the Good Men Project in its formative years. As the requisite woman on staff, her hobbies included cleaning, cooking, knitting, fainting, and childbearing. Follow her on Twitter @lufong.


  1. things haven’t changed much, my husband gives me demerits when I am “slow in coming to bed”, I however, wait until my husband is “fully” asleep!

  2. Cooper Fleishman says:

    “Very poor.”

  3. Red nail polish? I feel like such a tart now.

  4. I love the last bit…”Crane did attempt to make it scientific….(but) …admitted to using personal bias in weighting the items he thought most important in marriage.’ No wonder no one these days believes scientists when they talk about global warming…

  5. How else am I suppose to get my feet warm??

  6. The only hose I have is in the garden!

  7. What is really interesting about this is what it says about how men and women think differently: Notice that out of the 12 merits, only two in the chart the husband fills in are actually to do with the husband interacting with his wife, whereas eleven out of the twelve things wives thought were important are about personal interactions. It’s a clear demonstration of how impoverished male socialisation was back then. Has it improved in the 21st Century?

    • That’s what I though. The results may be cooked up but the actual questions show society expectations and the effects of such limited socialization. For women, the annoyances seem to be similar, complaining of less interaction but has men’s complaints changed? I’d like to think so

    • Anti Dill says:

      We have advanced since the 30′s that was almost 100 years ago. And the only real reason that most men and women think differently is because they had no choice, when was the last time you saw a man wearing a dress(who wasn’t having a sex change)? When was the last time you saw a boy playing with dolls? I have personally heard a mother state to her child(female) to not be so rough because it’s not lady like. That indoctrinates our children to fit a certain paradigm, and they grow up thinking that men and women think differently. Every person is different but so is every woman from other women and men from other men. Let’s evolve here a little and show we have brains to realize this.

  8. The seams in my wife’s hose are almost always crooked, and she darns my socks very infrequently and, when she does, rather poorly. I am forced to demerit this shit out of her.

  9. I just counted the highest possible scores for husbands and wives and guess what? Husbands can get a max. merit score of 146 (if they take their wife out on date 4 times a week), while wives can only reach 120 (if they have 4 children to take care of). It´s of course the opposite with demerit scores: Husbands can fail with 90, while wives can reach a fail of 102. Subtract the numbers and we have a balance of 18:56. So, according to the score system alone, husbands are generally 3 times more superior to wives. Good work Dr. W. Crane, Ph.D., M.D.!

  10. Sure, because nothing says romance more than grading your spouse like they’re your student in school.

  11. This is also a snapshot into class perspectives. I can’t imagine a poor midwestern dirt farmer (or the many poor immigrants in urban areas) in1930 America during the Great Depression giving two shits about any of this. A wife may or may not have owned seamed hose and a husband may or may not have been able to afford the newspaper (or read it).

  12. How refreshing, here is no great expectations for frequent hot sex……

    • FlyingKal says:

      I thought that was implicit in the very first point “slow in coming to bed”…

      • Theorema Egregium says:

        You mean like “slow in coming … in the bed”? :-D

        Oh God, these list would be such a treasure trove for snarky comments, if it were worth anybody’s time!

        • FlyingKal says:

          Na, I was thinking more that “delays until husband is (almost) asleep” is a pretty effective way to avoid having sex.
          But I guess your way works too… ;)


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