Manhood by Cuddle

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About Tom Matlack

Tom Matlack is the co-founder of The Good Men Project. He has a 18-year-old daughter and 16- and 7-year-old sons. His wife, Elena, is the love of his life. Follow him on Twitter @TMatlack.


  1. Craig Wagner says:

    “like” :-)

  2. Wonderful story! Thanks!

  3. Really catches the magic our kids can cast over us and the healing that occurs when we let it.

  4. Great story. Jammie-joes – that’s something we don’t get in our part of the world.

  5. Great story Tom! Thanks for sharing your heart. “I wanted so badly to be a guy’s guy.” – boy, is that a big statement. I get the same rejuvenation from my daughter and her smiles, hugs, kisses, hair pulling, etc. What a wonderful life when you can truly let that in!

  6. Tom Matlack says:

    Thanks for all the lovely comments. I appreciate the support and also the idea that our kids can teach us how to love fully if we let them. Innocence is something that is often learned from those who have it.

  7. kudos at work pale in comparison to my 2 year old daughter’s statement “Daddy, you’re the handosme prince!”

    Tom, thanks for so clearly stating what so many of us have come to discover as one of the greatest benefits of fatherhood – our children.

  8. You know what? This is the sort of stuff that melts my professionally-robotic heart. Thank you for sharing this: it’s beautiful and touching.

  9. The best part of my day is when I cuddle with my 7 month old…The time I spent cuddling with my older two kids means more to me than anyone could know…Thanks for writing this!

  10. Tom Brechlin says:

    My kids are grown and I can say, don’t ever stop hugging and don’t stop saying “I love you” .. I just got off the phone with my 27 year old son. “I love you” closed our conversation. I don’t leave his home or my daughters without a hug and an “I love you.” I’ve been blessed with a grandson …. 2 year old full of life and unconditional love. Thanks again Tom … you keep making my day!

  11. Just found this. I have a 2+ year old daughter and a 1 year old son. I love cuddling with both of them very much, and my wife too. My son turned out to be a formula baby pretty fast, so I got to feed him a lot more than I got to feed my daughter. It is an amazing experience, being forced to just sit and tend to the needs of a tiny little person.


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