3 Keys to Lasting Love

For some, it has even become a life goal, made possible by online apps and dating agencies.

Why are these devices so successful?

Simply because they study an essential element for lasting love: compatibility .

This compatibility is essential for your love to last beyond time, life’s obstacles and personal changes.

In this article, we’ll share with you the 3 keys to lasting love. Are you ready?

It’s possible to experience the magic of love like in the early days!
Lasting love seen in society
It is a social phenomenon, and yet it should be normal.

If you look around, you will find that few couples have been together for a long time , say more than 20 years.

This is explained both by a liberalization of society, which has allowed individuals to question themselves, and the questioning of the traditional model of the couple as a whole.

But beyond these societal events, it is the individuals who have evolved and if these couples are no longer together after years of living together, after children, after trials experienced together, it is for another reason: lasting love was not there .

Love is a subjective matter, and although private, it is judged in the public square .

Why do we notice lasting relationships when this should be the norm?

Why are they people we admire and who inspire us in our own lives?

Because love is an important component of every individual’s life.

To stop searching in vain or asking yourself many questions, discover the 3 keys to lasting love.

1 – Be good to yourself to be good as a couple
Did you know that the number one reason a relationship fails is simply because the individuals no longer support each other on an individual level?

Thus, for 81% of couples , the fact that one of the partners has a significant lack of self-confidence is what creates tensions and ends up causing their breakup.

Indeed, this type of lack of confidence can, in the long term, generate new excessive behaviors: pathological jealousy, withdrawal, detestable attitude, etc.

If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t love yourself, there’s little chance you’ll let anyone else love you .

Someone who lacks self-confidence or rejects their appearance will have difficulty opening up, both in intimacy and in conversation.

It is this imbalance that causes difficulties in creating a bond of closeness and trust, essential to ensure the sustainability of a couple.

For example, it is fairly well known that women are relatively uncomfortable with their bodies .

They often have complexes that can affect their relationships with others if there is no respect and trust.

This masculine/feminine polarity must be understood and listened to, in order to strengthen the bonds within a couple .

The same thing happens with the male ego , which always wants to be more present: giving it room to express itself is essential for the couple to find its balance.

So, couples who stay together are individuals who appreciate and respect each other.

They know how to take time for themselves in order to exist first as individuals , and then within their couple.

Taking time for yourself also means taking time for others, by extension: be good to yourself to be good in your relationship.

2 – Find a couple energy
Being in tune with yourself means that you have a certain energy : positivity, motivation, ambition , these levels differ from one person to another.

One of the keys to a lasting relationship will be compatible energies, and this is not just a question of love.

Some people are in love, but lack compatible energy.

This is what causes some couples to be in constant arguments or not agree on certain aspects of life.

This question of complementary energies is one of the main causes of breakups or separations in couples.

The problem is that this incompatibility can take years to manifest itself , particularly during a major life stage such as a career change, the arrival of a child, the milestone of forty, etc.

Of course, being in tune with similar energies can also have dangers .

If you’re both extremely ambitious, it can create sparks.

But this complicity and mutual understanding that you share will be the key to your balance .

So you have to be yourself and fully embrace your energy.

Be yourself: don’t change your energy to please someone else, but rather maintain a common energy!

3 – Give more than you receive
Often, couples in the middle of a breakup blame each other for having given too much to each other, whether in material terms or in terms of romantic support.

This crisis is indicative of a problem that has a definite impact on couples.

When one no longer wants to give, but only to receive, the relationship becomes one-way and is no longer viable .

If giving no longer comes naturally to you, it means you are in a defensive posture towards your partner, waiting.

But in life, nothing comes if you don’t express it or try to achieve it, as Franck Nicolas explains in the audio program “Boost” .

Maintaining good communication foundations within your relationship will help you overcome some small challenges in (re)learning to understand each other.

Lasting love is authenticity, the ability to give throughout your life without worrying about what comes in return, for one simple reason: it comes to you without you having to ask for it .

Whether it’s gifts, time, or love, giving is the key to making your relationship and love last !

Ultimately, the keys to lasting love are organized around self-confidence , mutual understanding, and the creation of an intimate and supportive environment full of balance .

Having someone with the same energy by your side will be a great asset to face life’s challenges hand in hand for decades to come…

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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