Should I Stop Fighting for My Marriage?

My wife looked me in the eyes and said, “It’s over.”

Two weeks back, we were getting ready for bed.

And we ended up fighting badly before we slept.

Recently, our relationship has not been going well. We have been fighting over small issues.

From my experience, I’ve realized that no one is actually wrong.

Things that seem perfect to me may not work for her, and vice versa.

This is normal in any relationship because we are not siblings, and we didn’t grow up in the same family.

But it feels like the differences between us are substantial, and sometimes it’s difficult for both of us to cope.

Her infidelity almost ten years ago still makes me nervous. You could say I’m a little insecure.

But the truth is, I have yet to fully recover from it.

I still continue to doubt her. I know she sometimes feels terribly bad about it. But I can’t help it.

That night, as we were getting ready for bed, I saw her typing texts on her phone.

I didn’t say anything or ask about it.

But then she tried to act as if she was just scrolling through her phone and nothing else had happened.

That broke my patience, and I asked her, “Why are you hiding it if you’re chatting with someone? It’s okay to chat, but don’t pretend you’re not. Because it raises doubt and makes both of us unhappy.”

That wasn’t something pleasant to hear, and she reacted strongly, saying,
“I’m talking with a friend about my struggles in this marriage, and I don’t want to share that with you.”

I told her, “It’s fine to share your thoughts and frustrations. But that doesn’t mean you have to act as if you’re just scrolling. I wasn’t peeking into your phone, and I do not have any intention to check it.”

Both of us ended that day on a bitter note and never talked about it afterward.

Things are slowly returning to some level of normalcy.

But I am not happy in this relationship, and it seems she isn’t either.

I’m not sure if we’re heading for a divorce in the years to come.

P.S. — I’m seriously thinking about documenting my everyday life here as a journal.

This is my way of sharing my frustration and my efforts to make my marriage work.

Has anyone faced similar days in their relationship?

Journal Date — April 3rd, 2025. Time — 6 AM CST/CDT.