This Is Always the First Sign You’re Being Cheated on

I’ve been cheated on by multiple partners. I’ve learned to spot the signs of cheating early now.

Here’s what I’ve found: every relationship is different, but being cheated on always feels the same. And there’s always one clear sign you’re being cheated on that you should never ignore.

The First Sign You’re Being Cheated On

The first sign that you’re being cheated on is distance. Sometimes it’s physical, but it’s always emotional.

Most relationships start out with a good amount of time spent together, texting or talking on the phone when you’re not together, and just generally integrating this other person into your life.

But when someone is cheating on you, there’s an obvious shift.

Their free time suddenly becomes less and less. Whether you live together or not, they’ll suddenly have a million things to do — things that don’t leave time for you.

They’ll stop calling you or texting you throughout the day like they once did. At first, you convince yourself it’s just because the honeymoon phase is over, but the silence becomes so deafening that it becomes impossible to ignore the truth. They’re pulling away from you.

When they do talk to you, there’s a change in the way they communicate. The conversations that used to flow so freely begin to feel different. It often feels like every conversation leaves you with more questions than you ever get answers to. It’s not just questions about what they’re doing and who they’re spending time with. They leave you wondering where the two of you stand.

You’ll feel something missing in your heart. You might not know exactly what’s wrong, just that something is.

Don’t Ignore the Signs You’re Being Cheated On

If something in the relationship feels off, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re being cheated on. But it can.

If your partner has been creating emotional and physical distance that wasn’t there before, it could very well mean that they’re having an affair.

The truth is, your intuition always knows you’re being cheated on. Pay attention to it.

And remember: if you have to wonder if someone is cheating on you, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship. You deserve to be in a stable, secure, and healthy relationship that doesn’t leave you wondering.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.