Over these years, I’ve learned that I am not alone. It really is hard. From not getting to cuddle with my special one to maintaining a pending pile of kisses, the distance bit us every day.
After a couple of years of sobbing and sulking, time to see the flip side of this distance. Like really, there are positives to being a long-distance couple, things that same city love birds won’t ever get.
Believe me, people, we guys have the edge over others, and it’s time you see the light!
It cannot be about lust.
Since we weren’t in the same city, we were definitely not going at it like bunnies!
Though there isn’t anything wrong with physical intimacy, a relationship needs more to stand the test of time.
So you can rejoice, people; you know you aren’t here for lust because, well, practically you have fewer opportunities to fulfill that plan!
Now, I am proud. We are emotionally involved with each other; it’s love, and we are definitely not confusing it with lust!
Trust is at an all-time high.
When you are in a long-distance relationship, you have little choice but to trust your partner.
Me Letting my imagination run wild and visualizing your girl getting cozy with other guys isn’t going to help.
So I ended up trusting your bond and giving your 100% hoping that I am not getting anything less in return. This is how we both went all-in in terms of trust.
And That’s how you lay firm foundations; trust is definitely the key!
Each others’ time is the real gift.
Meeting for a coffee or movie is frequent with the same city couples; that is a no brainer!
So the idea of surprises doesn’t strike them often.
That’s where we, the Long-distance Relationship couple, hit a home run.
I had once driven for 4 hours straight and showed up at her place, unannounced.
That deserved a huge Awww!
If not that, I even sent her cake and chocolate once when she was dealing with her PMS.
Guilty free ‘me’ time.
When you are soaking yourself in a nice bubble bath and having a glass of wine, your other friends stress the outfits for their weekend date. Between work, family, and regular dates, they have less time of my time. But that’s not the case with you; long hours of Netflix with a tub of ice cream comes guilty free.
Maybe not if you consider the calories, but chuck it; at least you are not cutting time on your love.
I realized that I had to have a life of my own while my same city counterparts had nothing else to do when their partners were doing something else.
Everyone should have a life of their own. So all’s cool!
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More time for friendships.
Since you aren’t occupied with your special one for almost all evenings, you have a lot of time to build friendships.
Football nights were being planned at my place now, and so was the booze flowing.
If you are a girl, your sleepovers with elaborate nail art sessions have been put off for too long, now is the time to catch up on that.
Monotony is out of sight.
Where the other couples were always cribbing about boredom that had set into their relationship, I was still waiting to get the chance to spend more time with them here.
Even the thought of me being with her made me have a happy dance inside my head!
When the chances to meet in person are less, you develop creative ways to keep the fire burning.
From watching the same romantic movie at the same time to playing online two-player games with each other, you’ve got the ‘connection riddle’ decoded!
The mystery goes strong.
You aren’t an open book to your mate, and when many would call this a negative of Long Distance relationships, it is anything but that!
I’ve seen people getting bored with each other in a few months just because they spend too much time with each other. The mystery disappears in such a short time that there’s no spark left.
You aren’t barring your soul to the last bit of detail over the phone, and that isn’t a drawback, mind it! After all, who wants to be predictable in front of their lovers? There isn’t anything better than a bit of mystery in a relationship if you like to keep things on edge!
So enjoy this! You have some part of your personality that is yet to be unleashed by your partner; sounds adventurous!
Exciting vacations await
No, I am not saying that LDR couples end up planning their exotic vacation to the Maldives while the rest stick to pizza takeaways for their days off!
But well, going to another city to meet your BAE is like a vacation.
And because you get to do this so less, you plan it for months. You both work on making it unique for both of you.
From the places you’d eat at and the shopping spree that is going to follow, everything is planned on point!
What more, the anticipation of meeting your love after months will give you butterflies.
And you value the time you spend with each other. Nothing goes in vain; you learn to look at the positives.
I guess you’re convinced enough; now it’s worth it!
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Independent living lessons.
Girls, Your boyfriend isn’t there to give you a pick and drop, so you become a pro at public transport.
And dude, she isn’t dropping by to feed you. Uhmm, you guessed it right, no option but to cook for yourself! All these zeroes down to managing your life on your own without the support of your better half.
This experience is making you stronger and more independent; hurray, you have your life sorted! Relationships are beautiful, no matter the physical distance.
All in all, it lets you know if you both are meant for each other. If you can go through a Long Distance Relationship, you can win through everything as a team.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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