Spice Up Your Relationship With These Awesome Intimacy Strategies

Intimacy

It’s a word that carries a lot of weight and while for some, it’s a source of comfort and security, for others, it’s a source of vulnerability and fear.

No matter how you define it, one thing is for certain — intimacy is the lifeblood of any healthy relationship. It separates the good, from the great and can mean the difference between a long-lasting partnership and a short-lived fling.

Despite its importance, intimacy often dissolves as time goes by…

Don’t worry! I have good news!

There are plenty of ways to increase intimacy in your relationship!

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1. Schedule A Weekly “Date Night”

Nowadays, it’s easy to let your busy schedule and daily routines get in the way of spending quality time with your loved one. (read closely)

Without scheduling a regular date night, many couples struggle to prioritize intimacy and connecting in general. By doing this, you will allow each other in on a deeper level.

Setting aside time specifically for the two of you to spend together will help create a sense of anticipation and excitement that can reignite the spark in your relationship.

Whether it’s a fancy dinner out, a movie night at home, or a fun night in (you know what I mean), the key is to make sure that you not only make the most of your time together but that you are on the same page and both focusing solely on each other’s company.

But… scheduling regular date nights isn’t just about fun! It’s also about growing that emotional connection.

Take the chance to understand each other’s thoughts, feelings, and goals.

We understand scheduling regular date nights isn’t always easy, especially when you have kids and busy work schedules. Still, make it a priority, and put in the effort to plan ahead.

Remember, date nights don’t have to be expensive or elaborate — this is about simply spending time together and enjoying each other’s company!

2. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone — Try Something New

It’s incredibly easy for relationships (and common) to get stuck in the same, comfortable pattern. It happens all the time. You end up doing the same things day in and day out.

“Hey Hun, how was work?”

“Same old, same old. You?”

“It started and it finished!”

Ha. Ha. Ha.

While there’s certainly nothing wrong with familiarity and routine, trying new things together can be an excellent way to increase intimacy and add some extra excitement to your lives.

You don’t want to become that boring old couple.

Whether it’s taking a dance class, trying a new sport or hobby, or simply exploring a new part of town, trying new things together can help you create new experiences and memories together.

This won’t only bring you closer as a couple, but it’ll also help you rediscover some sense of adventure that you may have lost over the years.

Who knows! Maybe you’ll find something new you love doing.

I know you’re probably feeling a little intimidated… salsa?! Okay, you don’t need to dance, but I do recommend you try it at least once.

Push yourself to try new things, take risks, and share a sense of accomplishment. Sharing those things will help increase the intimacy in your relationship.

So don’t be afraid! Step out of your comfort zone and try something new.

3. Communicate Openly And Honestly

That’s right! Back to our favorite blog topic. (If you’re new here, we talk about communication a lot)

It is the foundation of all successful relationships and it’s especially important when it comes to building intimacy.

However, many couples struggle with communication, either because they’re afraid of being vulnerable, they don’t know how to express themselves effectively or they’re afraid of what their partner might say.

To build deep intimacy, it’s essential to be open with your communication. You have to be honest and that means sharing your thoughts, feelings, and… desires. Even when it’s difficult or uncomfortable to discuss.

Your partner should be the person you can go to with anything, the person you can rely on. That’s why they’re called “your partner”.

Communication isn’t just about talking though — it’s also about listening.

When your partner shares something with you, it’s important to really listen and understand their perspective. This means giving them your full attention, asking questions to clarify their thoughts, and avoiding making judgments or being defensive.

This won’t be easy. None of this is. That’s exactly why it’s important to establish healthy communication habits in your relationship.

So have those difficult conversations because the more you have them, the more comfortable you will get with your partner.

4. Practice Physical Touch

Physical touch is an essential part of human connection and it’s key in order to maintain (or build) a romantic relationship.

Yet, many couples struggle to maintain regular physical touch. It fades over time and they often begin to feel awkward touching each other.

Physical touch requires consistency and practice.

Hold hands when you’re walking, cuddle when you watch a movie, and kiss hello and goodbye. These simple gestures help you feel closer to each other and create a physical connection that makes it easier to escalate to more intimate means later.

It’s also about paying attention to each other’s needs and desires.

You have to be aware of your partner’s physical boundaries and preferences — take the time to explore different forms of physical touch you both enjoy.

Sex is the most obvious form of physical intimacy and can be an important part of building that deeper sense of connection. You have to make time for it and make sure to prioritize sexual intimacy.

It’s important to note that sexual intimacy can also be a source of conflict or discomfort in a relationship, especially if there is underlying trauma, or even if a partner simply has different needs or desires. That’s why communication (once again) is so important.

Be open and honest about your sexual preferences and be willing to explore new things within your boundaries together.

Prioritizing physical touch and sexual intimacy in your relationship will help build a deeper sense of connection, bring in new fun, and strengthen your relationship.

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Conclusion

Building intimacy in your relationship requires effort and dedication, but the rewards will be well worth it.

Taking the time to prioritize your connection with your partner and practicing the four strategies outlined in this article, will help you and your partner build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship that will stand the test of time.

This is never easy, but this will help!

We love you!

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P.S. This is not a one-time task. It’s an ongoing process that requires constant attention and effort.

Ultimately, building intimacy in your relationship requires commitment. So, after you finish reading this, go to your partner and make a commitment to dedicate some energy towards boosting the intimacy in your relationship.

You won’t regret it! Go ahead, go do it.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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