Our entire lives we are always waiting for something to happen. Something that will make us happy. Once we get that thing, we will finally be happy. At least in our minds we will be.
And then……we will live happily ever after, right?
When I was 22 and graduating college, all of my friends were getting married and I was the only one who wasn’t. I didn’t even have a boyfriend, much less a future husband.
Once I found a man, then got engaged, and then married, I knew that I would be happy.
Well, I finally found a guy I met at work, and we dated for 2 years. I would finally be happy. But then the waiting and waiting and torturous waiting for him to propose which felt like an eternity. Until finally, he did.
And then I had my happily ever after right?
Not exactly. We are divorced.
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All of us are waiting on something to happen or if we are not waiting now, there was a time on our life when we were.
- I will be happy once I get my own apartment and move out of my parents’ house
- I will be happy once I can finally buy my own house and don’t have to live in this crappy apartment anymore
- I will be happy once I get a new job
- I will be happy once I’m pregnant
- I will be happy once I have more kids and my family is complete
- I will be happy once the house is paid off
- I will be happy once these teenagers are out of the house
- I will finally be happy once I’m retired and can quit this horrible job
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As soon as we reach one milestone, another creeps up. To the point where we cannot enjoy anything in our lives because we are always waiting on something else to happen.
We don’t allow ourselves permission to be happy and satisfied. We keep pushing the goalpost further and further ahead.
Instead, let’s enjoy the journey and not just the final destination.
We have to realize our time is limited. We never know what much time we have left. We don’t want to waste it being unfulfilled and unhappy. And waiting for the next best thing to come along.
Let’s be happy now in the present.
Let’s not have regrets about wasted time. With money you can always make more. Not so with time. You can’t get it back.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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