‘While secret lives are fundamentally dishonest, we all need and deserve a private life —including one that is concealed from our partner.’
Amy Winehouse and White Knight Syndrome
What is the ‘particular fascination that certain young men seem to have with self-destructive, doomed, talented young women?’
Anders Breivik, Anti-Feminist MRA?
In Breivik’s manifesto he stated that “the ‘man of today’ is expected to be a touchy-feely subspecies who bows to the radical feminist agenda.”
Are You a Controlling Shrew if You Don’t Want Your Partner Using Porn?
In the discussion about porn, Hugo Schwyzer wants Oscar and Ophelia to get the same amount of respect.
“Are Most Men Like This”? Sex, Lies, and the Newsweek Study
Hugo Schwyzer responds to Newsweek: “I’ve heard from many guys who tell me that they lie about porn (and the other kinds of sex they may buy) because, as one put it to me, ‘women go ballistic when you tell them the truth.'”
Needing Fresh Flirt: Why We Shouldn’t Get Validation at the Expense of Others
Flirting feels good, but Hugo Schwyzer wonders if it’s always good for us.
Why We Can’t Celebrate Male Sexuality … Yet
So let’s openly and joyously celebrate the positives of male sexuality. But we first need to liberate all of us from the “myth of male weakness,” a myth which insists that the average man has little or no self-control over his sexual desires.
On Porn, Being Discreet, and Insanity
Hugo Schwyzer responds to Naomi Wolf’s post: “Is Porn Driving Men Crazy?”
‘Cuckolding Is the Worst Thing That Can Happen to a Man’
The post “I May Have a Son, but I’ll Never Know for Sure” set off a firestorm of debate. Hugo responds with some thoughts about “cuckolding” here.
I May Have a Son, but I’ll Never Know for Sure
It is love, not sperm, that makes a great dad.
Harry Was Wrong: Lust Doesn’t Have to Ruin a Platonic Friendship
One of our great myths about men is that lust invariably cancels out the empathy.
Who Pays?
Two of our regular columnists debate a perennial controversy: should the man pay on the first date?
Bros Before Fidelity
Men’s cheating and sexual acting-out may be less about women and more about seeking status from other men.
Can Handsome Men Stay Faithful?
Combine insecurity with abundant opportunity, the prevailing wisdom goes, and every man’s a cheater … right?
Hug Your Daughters
As daughters age and develop, Hugo Schwyzer argues, it’s important for men to overcome their discomfort and continue to show affection.
Our Other Brothers: Gay and Straight Men as Friends
Although relationships between gay males and straight females are more visible in pop culture, Hugo Schwyzer writes, don’t underestimate the friendships between gay and straight men.