Let’s embark on a playful journey where we explore the fascinating similarities between sex and driving a car. Sometimes it’s refreshing to see things from a different perspective.
Buckle up and get ready to explore 12 intriguing reasons why these two seemingly unrelated activities share more in common than you might expect! Fasten your seatbelts, because we’re about to embark on a thrilling ride of comparisons and revelations that will leave you both entertained and enlightened.
1. If you can’t start your ignition, you’re not going anywhere
Reality check: if you can’t start your car, your journey is over before it begins. This is not an uncommon situation for older models, although it has become increasingly more common for late model vehicles. Check that you’ve got enough fuel and you’re not thinking about other adventures.
2. You can only reach your objective if you don’t overshoot your destination
We’re assuming you got your vehicle started, but you’ve got to slow down! It’s great to be goal oriented, but many partners prefer that you slow down, take in the scenery and enjoy sharing your ride together.
3. Braking hard at the wrong time can make you crash or stall
The science and logic behind the previous request – if you’re not paying attention to what’s in front, behind, or coming at you from the side… then things could get messy.
4. One wrong move can cause an accident
Which leads me to my next point. You’ve got to keep track of what’s going on. There’s two of you involved in the sexual act and you can only control your part of the equation. This is what you need to know about sex. Make sure you account for your partner’s unexpected moves, because…
5. Braking in the wrong way can make you lose control
A sudden tightening of a specific nut can cause you (or your partner) to lose control.
6. If you get a flat tire you’re not going anywhere
You’ve got to know how to pump up your tire at a moment’s notice, so your partner doesn’t get bored waiting for the journey to continue.
7. Changing into the wrong gear (with the wrong timing) can make you stall
The smoothest ride encompasses moving smoothly through the gears, in the right order, with the right timing. Changing gears too rapidly, or changing down and missing a gear makes for a rough and uncomfortable ride for all concerned.
8. Losing focus can make you lose control of your vehicle
As you know from trying to text on your phone while you drive, your mind can only focus on one task at a time. If you’re worrying about your vehicle’s performance and your ability to reach your preferred destination, THEN WHO IS STEERING YOUR VEHICLE?
9. Not having confidence makes it less fun
Just like driving a car, sex requires a certain amount of confidence in your ability. If you’re unsure of your sexual technique your mind will be too distracted to enjoy the ride.
10. Flat spots make you wonder if you’re going to make it
It’s so important to regularly maintain your vehicle. Unless you’re using the right fuel and looking after your vehicle to keep it in prime condition your vehicle may depreciate and lose its market value.
11. Having no control is disappointing
Remember as a teenager, the thrill of going for a ride with someone who wasn’t in control of their vehicle? Yeah, it’s great fun as a kid, but us grown-ups don’t find it much fun at all. We tend to find it humiliating, embarrassing and disappointing – and that’s from both male and female perspectives.
12. You can only stay in control if you know how to operate your vehicle!
None of us were given the operating manual at school. If you were lucky, you fluked balancing your sexual focus and getting sex right the first time and it hasn’t been a problem since.
However, many a male had the unfortunate experience of being too eager to please during his first sexual encounter – or briefly lost focus thinking about the upcoming ball game during sex (and lost his arousal or lost control). Now he’s wondering what the heck he was doing right, prior to that random incident.
Restore mutually satisfying sex!
Just like with car problems, ignoring sex problems won’t make them disappear. It’s important to recognize that sex is a vital aspect of our lives, and when issues arise, they deserve our attention and proactive approach.
Think about it – if you continue driving a car with a warning light blinking on the dashboard, hoping that it will magically resolve itself, you’re setting yourself up for trouble. The longer you ignore the issue, the more likely it is to worsen and potentially lead to a breakdown.
In the same way, if you neglect addressing sex problems, they can have a detrimental impact on your overall well-being and intimate relationships.
By choosing to take action and address sex problems, you’re actively investing in your own happiness and satisfaction. Just like you would take your car to a mechanic for repairs, seeking guidance from an expert in the field of sexology can provide you with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome these challenges.
Don’t let opportunities for a fulfilling and satisfying sex life pass you by. Remember, you have the power to enhance sex and enjoy deep connection with your partner.
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Previously Published on End the Problem and is republished on Medium.
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Afraid my car was put in the garage years ago. Perhaps if I could lease a new model every couple years driving would be fun.