5 Psychology-Backed Ways to Make Your Weekend Feel Longer

Every Sunday night around 8 p.m., my friend Kyle texts our group chat the same thing.

“Where did the weekend GO?”

Sometimes with a skull emoji. Sometimes with a photo of his laundry pile, still unfolded, judging him from the chair.

Friday felt like it lasted three seconds. Saturday disappeared into errands and a nap he didn’t mean to take. Sunday was mostly dread with a side of meal prep.

I get it. I’ve had entire weekends vanish while I was “just checking one thing” on my phone.

But here’s what’s interesting. Researchers who study time and happiness have found that how long a weekend feels, and how good it feels, isn’t only about the hours. It’s about what we do with our attention.

I’m not saying you need to cram your weekend with activities. Some weekends are for doing absolutely nothing, and that’s valid. These are just small shifts that can make the same 48 hours feel fuller.

1. Treat it like a mini vacation

In a 2021 study, Colin West, Cassie Mogilner, and Sanford DeVoe asked some people to treat their upcoming weekend like a vacation. Others were told to treat it like a regular weekend.

The “vacation” group was happier when they got back to work on Monday.

Why? They paid more attention to the present moment, and they spent a little less time on housework and work.

It wasn’t a different weekend.
It was a different mindset.

Try this: Ask, “What would I do if I were visiting my own city?” Then do one of those things.

2. Do one new thing

Writer and psychology broadcaster Claudia Hammond calls it the “holiday paradox.” A week of new experiences seems to fly by while you’re in it, but when you look back, it feels long, because your memory is packed with fresh moments.

Routine weekends blur together. New ones stand out.

It doesn’t have to be big. A new brunch spot. A different hiking trail. Cooking a recipe you’ve never tried.

Kyle tried a pottery class one Saturday. He made a bowl that looks like a deflated basketball. He talks about it more than any weekend from last year.

Try this: Add one “first” to every weekend.

3. Plan loosely, not tightly

Researchers Gabriela Tonietto and Selin Malkoc found that scheduling leisure activities at specific times can make them feel more like work, and less enjoyable.

But rough plans, like “lunch with Sam sometime around noon,” didn’t have the same downside.

A weekend with a minute-by-minute itinerary starts to feel like a second job.

Try this: Pick one or two things you want to do. Leave the exact times flexible.

4. Leave your phone out of the good parts

In a 2018 study, Ryan Dwyer, Kostadin Kushlev, and Elizabeth Dunn had friends and family eat a meal together, either with their phones on the table or put away.

With phones out, people felt more distracted and enjoyed the meal less.

We pull out our phones to capture the moment.
Then we miss the moment.

Try this: Pick one stretch of your weekend that’s phone-free. A meal, a walk, an afternoon at the park. Take one photo if you want. Then put it away.

5. Actually stop working

Organizational psychologist Sabine Sonnentag has studied how people recover from work for years. One of the strongest factors she found is psychological detachment: mentally switching off from work during your time off.

A quick email check on Saturday can pull your mind back into the office for the rest of the day.

Your body is at the farmers market.
Your brain is in a meeting.

Try this: Before you log off Friday, write down what’s waiting for Monday. Then close the laptop and leave it closed.

If You Take One Thing Away…

We think our weekends are too short.
Often, they’re just too full of things that don’t feel like ours.

How you spend your weekend matters because it tells you whether time is something that happens to you, or something you get to live in.

Same 48 hours.
Different attention.
Different Monday.

Kyle’s group chat text last Sunday? “Okay, that weekend actually felt like a weekend.” Attached: a photo of the deflated-basketball bowl, now holding his keys.

Awareness always comes before change.
If this stirred something in you, that’s worth paying attention to.

What’s one thing that makes your weekend feel longer?

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