A Big Misconception Almost 97% of Men Have About Women

Let’s be sincere

There are many things men think they know about women, but in reality most of them are incorrect.

Most men have no clue of what truly attract women.

This is because of misconception or the prevalence of self acclaimed “dating gurus” that are pushing half baked and unproven dating tips all around.

If you ask an average man, what attracts women, he’ll say something like:

“Women are only attracted to men with six packs abs”
“If you don’t have money, forget it, rich men always have all the women for themselves”
“You need to be cute, well dressed, tall and handsome to be noticed or considered by women”

This means the biggest misconception men have about women is…

They believe women are to attracted to “external qualities” ALONE

This misconception has made some men resort to obsession in muscles, designer clothes, shoes, wrist watches, expensive cars or even faking confidence.

How This Is Hurting Men

It makes men focus on wrong things (designer outfits, looks, and flashy things)
If brings frustration because you will still be ignored by women, even after you believe you have done everything right
It makes men lose out on beautiful women because they believe they are only for the handsome, rich and wealthy men.

The truth is what women are attracted to is beyond these things. It goes deeper than physical attraction.

Although these external qualities allow you to get women’s attention, it doesn’t guarantee attraction.

External qualities ONLY catch women attention MOMENTARILY

That’s why you will see a broke, confident guy dating a beautifully gorgeous woman and an averagely looking and dressed guy making women chase him.

And this leaves you wondering, does he have that I don’t have?

The reality is women are not drawn to what you have — They are drawn to what/who you are!

Let me not forget to tell you, this doesn’t mean you have to be a perfect guy. Just focus on being:

A man who know his worth without any validation
Be a man that’s not predictable. Make a woman feel mystery, excitement, playfulness
Have boundaries or set of beliefs on exactly what you want and never bend them to please any woman
Develop an interesting purpose driven life any woman will naturally want to be part of

Final Thoughts

The moment you shift your mindset from not just building external qualities to also include mental or internal strengths, women will start seeing you differently and attraction will come almost effortlessly.

Physical qualities and attraction only serve as an icing on the cake, not the real deal.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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