Dr. Robert Glover is a world-famous dating expert who’s most famous for his book ‘No More Mr. Nice Guy’.
In his book ‘Dating Essentials’, he listed 20 reasons for men not to pursue hot women.
Having dated plenty of hotties myself, I’d like to disagree with nearly all of his points.
1. “Beauty fades but mean, dumb, moody and insecure are forever.”
I understand the idea that beautiful women are less likely to have endearing personalities. Some women decide they don’t need one because they get everything they want just from looking good.
But there are plenty of beautiful women who are intelligent, kind, happy and modest.
I’d expect a world-famous dating expert to know that.
2. “You are reinforcing the worship of beautiful women.”
Pursuing a woman is not the same as worshipping her.
Men should approach women they’re physically attracted to, but not be sold just because they’re hot.
Her beauty should simply inspire them to find out if she has a personality to match.
3. “You have put women on a pedestal based solely on their looks and not who they are.”
It’s not pedestalizing a beautiful woman to approach her and find out if there’s chemistry. That’s what I encourage all men to do.
4. “Only dating attractive women makes you just as shallow as the women who only date rich guys.”
Yes, that’s true if you date attractive women who you can’t stand. The author doesn’t seem to believe that some attractive women can be great fun to hang around.
5. “Since you have put the hot woman on a pedestal, you will always feel inferior and anxious around her.”
No, most men feel inferior around hot women already. That’s why they pedestalize them.
Guys who feel worthy of beautiful women don’t pedestalize them.
6. “Any assumption you make on how a hot woman is in bed, is based purely in your imagination and too much porn!”
I’ve heard the idea that the most beautiful women don’t try hard in bed. But that has not been true in my experience. Also, it’s mostly down to the man whether sex is good anyway.
7. “Her beauty will always be at the centre of the relationship.”
That’s true if you love her for her beauty and nothing else.
8. “She will never know if you really love her or not. She will continuously test to find out.”
That could be true if she senses she’s just a trophy wife. But any partner could be just as insecure.
9. “She will have no incentive to not cheat.”
If a woman loves her man and is comitted to the relationship, she will not cheat. .
10. “She will have no incentive to be good in bed.”
If a woman loves her man, she will want to please him in bed.
11. “She has been used and maybe abused all her life.”
This is flat out ridiculous. There is no pattern for abuse. And even if she choose men who only want her for sex, but this problem isn’t exclusive to hot women. Plus, why would that even be a problem if you are in love?
12. “She is more likely to be a taker than a giver.”
She’s so hot that she doesn’t feel the need to contribute anything else? Perhaps some women are like this…
Honestly though, it’s mostly men making generous gestures in all relationships. They are seen as the “providers”, after all.
How many of you guys have even received one truly awesome Valentine’s Day gift?
13. “She will spend tons of money on shoes, cars, spas, salons, make-up and plastic surgery.”
Perhaps, but it’s up to the man whether he gives his money away.
14. “You will always be late (waiting for her to get ready).”
I’ll give him this one. But if beauty is what you want, then this is worth it to you.
15. “She will need a really expensive car to match her looks.”
Not all beautiful women are gold diggers.
16. “You will be frequently insecure and jealous.”
A hot girlfriend will get more attention from other men than an average-looking one. Some of these men might be better-looking with more money than you. Personally, I choose to believe that our emotional connection will put me above all other men in my woman’s eyes.
17. “Every other man will feel like a threat to you.”
A grown-ass woman won’t treat these men in a way that makes them feel like a threat. If she’s in love with you, she won’t want to mingle with random dudes in the club or entertain their DMs on Instagram.
18. “She will need affirmation of desirability from other men once she knows she has it from you.”
Only if she’s insecure.
19. “It’s easy for her to leave.”
Beautiful women are never short of suitors and it would be easy for them to replace their boyfriends.
However, most women value the emotional connection they build with their partners. As long as he remains as valuable as when he met her, she should have no reason to leave.
20. “It will be almost impossible for you to leave.”
If you don’t feel worthy of your girlfriend, it will feel impossible to leave her.
She will notice you feel that way and lose all respect for you. At that point, she won’t feel the need to contribute anything.
For this reason, you SHOULDN’T pursue hot women if you don’t feel worthy of them. You’ll either embarrass yourself or end up in a toxic relationship.
If you do feel worthy, of course you should pursue them. But strive to only partners who also winning personalities, those you can truly love and cherish.
Do this and you’ll carry yourself differently throughout the relationship.
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