Leading feels like bullfighting. You don’t control the bull. Control the cape.
Don’t ignore the bull. Respond to it.
You don’t control:
- Politicians and the economy.
- People and interruptions.
- Your DNA and lifespan.
- Accidents and past events.
- Decisions of higher-ups.
Control
Focus energy on responses. For example, you can’t control people. Control how you respond to them. You can’t control interruptions. Determine how long they last.
Avoid thoughtless impulse. Act consciously toward things you can’t control.
Focus On Influence Not Control
You can influence people even though you can’t control them.
Higher-ups resist being controlled. Influence the decision-making process.
You influence your lifespan. But we all end up in the dirt.
You can’t control your reputation. Act consistently.
Control the Cape An Example
Get a grip on your day by controlling your morning. Know what you’re going to do before you get out of bed.
Choice empowers.
Get a grip on your morning routine. You might not change your routine but know you’re choosing it.
- Rise early enough to start the day slowly.
- Choose how to show up for others.
- Decide one thing, beyond day-to-day challenges, you must get done.
- Jot a few lines in a journal.
- Turn your attention toward service.
Control the Cape: Accept limits. Embrace responsibility.
How do leaders learn to accept limits and embrace responsibility?
How to Control Your Control Freak
8 Tips for Dealing With a Control Freak
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