Have you ever felt stuck trying to answer big questions such as…
- “What is my niche?”
- “Who is my ideal client?”
- “What should my offering be?”
- “What’s my marketing message?”
- “What’s my Calling in life?!”
These questions carry a finality that can overwhelm us. It’s like once you answer it, you lose your flexibility. “The decision would affect so many little things!” you say… “Therefore I can’t move forward until I’ve figured it out!”
It’s no wonder that many of us procrastinate on building our business. These big questions can keep us stuck for years.
A wise mentor once said to me that our Calling can only be understood when looking backward.
Observing the twists and turns of our life, we can start to connect the dots… to see the pattern of our opportunities, the people we happened to meet, our successes and “failures” and what we learned from our experience.
By connecting the dots of our past, we start to understand our Calling.
Yet, Life is lived forward. Are we going in the “right” direction? We know that planning helps prevent mistakes, but when it comes to something as complex and evolving as building our authentic business, there are too many factors we aren’t aware of, for which we cannot plan.
“We plan, and God laughs…” –Yiddish proverb
We don’t know how we will personally evolve, nor how society’s surprising changes may affect our decisions. Therefore, the wisest way to build an authentic business, and to discover our calling, is to take the stance of experimentation.
“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” ―Ralph Waldo Emerson
From a more playful perspective, let us reframe those big intimidating questions…
“What’s my niche?”
…can be reframed as:
“What’s the next niche I’d like to explore, through experimentation?”
Instead of the false finality of “defining” my niche, I always am testing new ideas… while doubling-down on recent ideas that got traction.
For example, a few years ago, I noticed that I was answering many questions from my audience about Facebook Ads. So I decided to test out that niche by teaching a single 2-hour workshop on that topic. People loved it. So then, I repeated it for a colleague’s audience. They loved it too. And now, my Facebook Marketing Course is what many people know me for. In other words, for them, this is my “niche”. (I don’t care how people define me — as long as they find benefit from my work.)
Another example: I was interested in the topic of healthy money (relating to money in a wiser way) so I tried writing some articles about it. Most of those articles received lackluster response. Therefore, it’s not a niche that I’ll be putting much effort into. If it were a hobby, I might keep writing about it — I guess that’s why I kept it up so long. However, for my business, I’d rather focus on other ideas that get a better (and more) market response.
“Who’s my ideal audience?”
…can be reframed as:
“Who has recently been responding to my authentic content?”
“What group of people will I try advertising my content to next?”
This is why I preach the message of Authentic Content Marketing: in your content, be yourself (without having to pretend to be like anyone else). Talk about your passions, talk about what has really helped you and others, and then observe who responds to your authenticity.
You can also make experiments by running Facebook Ads to different audiences and see if they like your content.
Then, as you start offering your products and services, observe who buys. That’s the beginning of your true ideal audience. Study who your buyers are.
Back in 2009 when I started my business, I imagined that my ideal audience looked like me: 30’s male, business school graduate. Yet, as I created content and started to enroll clients, I was surprised: my audience was mostly women, and many of them were in their 50’s, and mostly without business degrees.
That taught me an important lesson: Instead of trying to define my ideal audience, let it become obvious over time.
“What’s should my product/service be?”
…can be reframed as:
“What have I already been helping people with?”
“What will I try helping people with next?”
We often take for granted the skills we use to help others.
Whatever we do skillfully is so “obvious” or “normal” to us, that we don’t appreciate the value it brings to others.
It’s like a fish teaching a monkey to swim: it’s no big deal for the fish, so obvious and easy, but it’s a huge revelation for the monkey!
If you start noticing the skills you use to help others, you’ll find clues for what your next experimental offering (product/service) can be.
“What’s my marketing message?”
…can be reframed as…
“What headline would I like to test next?”
“What sales page shall I draft next?”
It’s intimidating (even for marketing experts like me) to think of a single unifying marketing message.
Truthfully, you don’t have just “one” message. Every product/service has its own marketing message.
Over time, as you create content and observe the reactions of your audience, your overarching Core Message will become clearer to you.
Until then, just focus on experimenting in your content, and testing the message of your next offering.
Until it becomes obvious, stay flexible.
As we live forward in time, our information (about ourselves, society, and our audience) gets more updated, at an ever-faster pace. Building our authentic business is a highly complex project, and it is fantasy to try to plan far into the future and still remain authentic to the moment.
Instead, it is more realistic and true (to our understanding of ourselves) to just experiment with the next thing. Your future direction will be beyond your current understanding.
Allow your Calling to be understood backward, and simply live forward with playful experimentation… the curiosity of a scientist or artist.
To make progress now, ask yourself a smaller question:
“What’s the next thing I’d like to try?”
A version of this post was previously published on georgekao.com and is republished here with permission from the author.–
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