There are sixteen steps to my office. I decided to double my trips. When I go up. I go back down and up again. I want to protect my health by increasing physical activity.
The best goals are habits, not finish lines.
Low-Friction Goals
- Drink a cup of water before a cup of coffee.
- Double time on the stairs.
- Have one conversation that solely benefits another.
- Listen without interrupting during one meeting today.
- Ask two questions before making one statement. (Are you saying…? What makes this important to you? / What have you tried? What did you learn? / Tell me more. What do you suggest?)
- Read 10 pages in a book before bed.
- List one big rock every morning.
- Write three sentences about your day before dinner.
Useful goals can be achieved over and over.
Update:
I set my goal February 1. It works because I’m already on the steps. Just turn and go back up. (Habit Stacking)
When time allows, I make 10 trips instead of 2. Best day is 1,200 steps (600 down and 600 up). My stretch goal is 1,576 steps up. The observatory on the Empire State Building.
What needs to be true of goals that work?
What low-friction goal would serve you well?
Meaningful Action Beats Big Goals
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