By Georgiana Baileh
Most of us take our time on this planet for granted. We keep postponing our happiness until we have more money or more time. But the truth is, the clock is ticking and the next minute that passes, you will never get it back. So stop making excuses to justify living an unfulfilling life because all these excuses are fears in disguise. And with every excuse you make, you empower those fears to continue to lead you on in life.
There’s a famous quote that says: ‘Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.’ But what if that day comes too late? Can you imagine dwelling in misery for the rest of your life? You should not. It’s time to stop hiding behind fear.
Here are 3 ways to conquer fear and stop standing in your own way in life.
1. Rewrite your story
We are told stories about ourselves our entire lives. Every person we meet adds a line to our story and we simply go along with it. We never question what made us the people we are. So we remain stuck inside the person who created the situation we are in, unable to escape.
This is the realization I came to last year. I had just turned thirty and for some reason, I began to feel like I was running out of time to live a life I loved. My life left like a waiting game. I was waiting for fulfillment to walk through the door, or for something to happen, that would get me to where I needed to be. But the problem was, I didn’t know where I needed to be. I didn’t know what my purpose or potential was because I had never explored either, nor tried to achieve more than what I was told I was capable of. So I decided to re-write my story and challenge the stereotypes. I stopped telling myself what I couldn’t do and focused instead on figuring out how to do it.
And that’s exactly what you need to do. Rewrite the story that seems to hold you back in life. Whether it’s living with a mental disorder, a disability, or being at a stage in your life in which “you are not supposed to do that thing”. I encourage you to take that first step and see where it leads you. The rewards can be so much greater than the losses.
2. Remember why you’re doing it
I know they say getting started is the hardest, but sometimes the middle of the journey can be even harder. It’s that time of uncertainty when you are not sure if you should stop and go back or continue. That’s when you have already put in so much work, often without visible or tangible results. It’s the most frustrating, daunting and disheartening time, but it’s also the most crucial time. Getting through this stage is the difference between success and failure.
This is when a lot of people give up. So to protect yourself against quitting you must constantly remind yourself why you’re doing it and envision the end result.
Whether it’s physical, emotional, or monetary success you’re after, be stubbornly persistent in your pursuit of achieving it. Look for role models who’ve been where you are and who didn’t give up. Use their stories to motivate yourself to keep going but remind yourself that their success is the result of years of hard work and persistence. Look back at the progress you’ve made, celebrate every milestone and don’t get too caught up in all the hard work that lies ahead.
Instead, be prepared to readjust your strategies, and most importantly, never stop believing in your goal. The more you believe in what you do, the more likely you are to do it well and succeed.
This post was previously published on Inspoplace.com.
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