I Think the Greatest Pain Comes When You Realize…

The other nights I had probably one of the shittiest nights I’ve ever felt.

Those of you who read me know that I have a sweet temper, I don’t raise my voice easily, and I can usually stay calm. But on Halloween, I had one of those moments when I couldn’t hold my temper.

If I were to put a label on myself right now, I would call it a sense of accumulation.

I have no tolerance left for certain behaviors or attitudes. The ones I used to love have erased me in such a moment that when I feel the possibility of the same thing happening in my relationships, my defense mechanism starts to work instead of feeling sadness.

So how does this happen, I wanted to evaluate myself in this article.

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Previously, I used to behave cheerful and hopeful like a Polyana in my relationships (which I thought seriously). I am not a person who has the problem of moving from that woman to another woman, I want to have one and I want it to be complete.

I have been like this with two women so far, I was seriously worn out as a result of both of them. I would always find myself as a man running after the woman.

The most frustrating feeling I’ve ever had:

Knowing that I wasn’t the first priority for them.

I was always trying to run after someone, to make them happy, to make them enjoy themselves, etc. (shity I know) I was always fooling myself.

Then I realized that the beauties done alone don’t mean anything. If you like someone, do you want to leave their side?

This is what happened for me this week. We met a girl, and everything started sweetly, we talked that we would both make an effort for a good relationship, I wanted to build something from scratch, and I think she would support this idea. Let’s come to the ridiculous event we experienced and the situation that led me to become an intolerant unhappy man.

Most of you read what comes next carefully, because if you don’t want to, when resentments increase, these things can happen in many other areas besides your love life.

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As I said, after we talked about starting a relationship, I was dancing on the clouds.

When I went to the girl at night, 10 friends were drinking in one area. I couldn’t see her when I arrived and for a moment I was cheerfully shouting her name ‘where is my girl?’ … I’m an idiot, right? Right!

I wanted to see her and spend time with her, but she went and sat next to a friend. Anyway, I went and sat next to them, but she wasn’t talking to me. More precisely, her interest was not in me. I think my tensions started here.

Then we hung out there for about 1 hour, I was uncomfortable with this situation and I got up and sat somewhere far away. At that time, 4–5 of my friends came and started asking ‘why are you sitting here?’ But my flirt was still not aware that I was gone. Anyway, let’s not drag it out. Then we came to a nightclub, there was an unbelievable line and we waited at the door for 1 hour without any clumsiness, but I think this was the best point of the night for me.

Silly me ..

Because they had let our whole group in and we were two people left at the door. We spent half an hour hand in hand with her head on my shoulder. I started to feel really good after that indifference at the beginning.

When we got inside, we met our friends, got our drinks and of course started dancing. This is where the annoying part started for me. The women leave me and started dancing with her friends. I was looking into her eyes for about an hour and she didn’t even turn her head. I honestly don’t like to be one of those people who kiss and sniff in public, but I would like to see the girl I call my woman next to me. Anyway, I met a couple of groups there and waited outside for almost 2.30 hours.

2.30 ! Idiotic me…

After 2.30 hours I finally got a message ‘where are you?

At that time she came up to me and asked me why I wasn’t with them. I’m really incredibly full and set up, I understand better now. I started shouting, ‘calling out, putting me in the second plan, etc…’

Now I don’t want to write too much detail about the conversation because I will probably get upset again. Finally, when I realized that she didn’t understand what I was saying, I lost my temper …… ( But isn’t it the most maddening thing in the world that you say apple and the other one says pear?), a big fuck you went up from inside me.

I don’t think what I did was right, and by the way, I really take care to treat women nicely. But I was incredibly angry.

Anyway, we parted ways after that.

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Now that I’ve told you the story, let me give you my thoughts.

It is the feeling of fullness that ruins you.

Whatever the subject, for me it was a relationship, for you it could be work, family … etc.

When there are things we don’t want to accept, or things we can’t accept, that explosion of anger, words like spewing hate. It was unbecoming of us.

I guess life wears out good people, no matter what causes it.

When I thought about this incident all day yesterday, at least I realized what triggered it in me.

My advice to you is to lie on your bed and question yourself. Seriously, after I did that, I started to feel good.

If I have such a thought, if I understand what the problem is, I can no longer make it a problem in my other relationships.

I don’t know how to proceed now, but at least I realized that I want a relationship in which I will never be put in the second plan.

I can direct my energy accordingly, I think I would rather be with a woman who I am in the first plan but who does not meet my criteria than with a sane and successful woman who puts me in the second plan. But I can’t tell you how relieved I am to realize this.

We need to learn to listen to ourselves little by little, we don’t want to be one of those cocky idiots in the end. Anyway, if there is a development in this situation in the future, I would like to tell here if I find my different triggers.

What are the issues that you cannot tolerate? Let’s discuss this in the comments.

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I am a slightly different man. I have different tastes. But every different man has a favorite type of woman.

Almost every man has said the above statement once in his life.

The women I’m talking about are usually women who have things in our lives that we don’t have. They are strong women.

So who is a strong woman?

She is an independent woman.

In my opinion, the best posture that can suit a woman is independence.

When I say independent, I am not talking about women who are saucy and make those around them vomit blood. They are women who can stand on their own feet without relying on anyone.