People’s appearances can be fake, but real emotions cannot lie.
Whether a man really loves you or has other plans, there are ways you can clearly see the details.
In particular, these three “times”, no matter how well he usually dresses up, let you instantly see his most real “face”.
01 when you are in trouble
In this world, what often gives people the most confidence and sense of security is companionship and attention.
No matter what obstacles you encounter, it is great to know there is someone behind you to support you, and you have shoulders to rely on. This kind of down-to-earth love is what every woman yearns for.
Difficulties and trials are the touchstones of a relationship.
A man who truly loves you, when you are traumatized and sad, will stand by your side without hesitation, open his arms actively, and give you comfort and tenderness.
When you are wronged or bullied, he will stand on the same side as you, stand up for you, and safeguard your interests and dignity.
This kind of love has the power of healing and redemption, making people no longer afraid of anxiety, and instantly feel at ease.
A man who doesn’t have you in his heart will only keep silent, ignore you, or indiscriminately accuse you of over-reacting. Such a man may not care about your feelings at all.
When you look at relationships this way, the difference between love and not love hits people’s hearts and is clear at a glance.
02 when you quarrel
In relationships, it is never a shame to give in to love.
When two people are together, friction and conflicts are inevitable. Only the person who truly loves you can understand your emotions, tolerate your feelings, and be reluctant to make you sad.
In fact, how deeply a man loves you depends not on when the relationship is good, but on his attitude towards you when he quarrels.
At this moment, it is easiest to expose a person’s heart and his true nature.
If he will reflect on himself and understand why there is a conflict, if he is willing to make concessions for you, and be soft to you, it means that you are very important to him.
And a person who doesn’t care about you, no matter how he says says he loves you, will immediately turn his face when he quarrels, like a different person.
Either he will use the cold shoulder against you to force you to bow your head first, or poke your pain points directly, speak harsh words to you and slander you.
Such a man who doesn’t care about your feelings, to put it bluntly, he is selfish and doesn’t have you in his heart at all.
03 when he faces temptation
True love is loyal and unique.
How a man feels towards a woman depends on whether he is wavering or firm in the face of external temptations.
There are indeed many temptations in this world, but people who have love, principles, and a sense of responsibility in their hearts will always remind themselves to keep a clear mind.
A man who is devoted to you will never see other women in his eyes. He will restrain his body, guard his heart, and will not do anything to betray you or hurt you.
No matter how many opposing voices there are from the outside world, no matter what kind of temptations he faces, he will stand by your side and never leave you.
And a man who can’t stand the temptation is not firm in love, and is not responsible for marriage will often not find reasons from himself.
It’s obviously his own fault, but he only blames the temptation outside, blames you for being strong and doesn’t understand him, and then pushes the blame away completely.
No matter what the reason is, it doesn’t matter, in the final analysis, it is that he doesn’t love you enough.
In a relationship, no matter how beautiful the promise is, it is useless.
Time is the best way to test a person’s sincerity.
You don’t have to always ask a man whether he loves you or not. People’s hearts can be seen over time. In fact, the answer is hidden in time and details.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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