This has always been a long asked question of mine since I am highly competitive in almost everything I do.
If you play tennis with me then I will do my best to win 6–0, if we are playing FIFA then I will for a way to win 10–0 and will keep on looking for goals until the game is finished. I am THAT competitive.
Most people think that having this trait sucks since you will be miserable every time that you lose, but if you manage to go past that and learn from what you did wrong then you are ready to crush life!
The guy that I love to see and learn from is Gary Vaynerchuk since he really has that competitive spirit but never loses his positivism even when he f*cks up.
That is what people should be striving to be, someone who can be as competitive as he or she wants but that learns from their mistakes and works on never making them again.
How competitive is too competitive?
I feel that there are places where being competitive just doesn’t fit since it damages more than it helps. For example:
If you are in an argument with somebody most of the time it’s better to let it go and be the better man or woman since it makes no sense to be fighting over anything.
I believe that healthy competition is crucial in business and marketing since it helps you keep on striving to be the best but how many times have you been there thinking that it was not worth it? Those extra hours you spent at the office simply to beat another company at the end of the year.
Thinking of the places that one can and cannot be competitive in is purely subjective since people tend to have different priorities when it comes to life.
So ask this question to you:
Am I being a competitive person in a part of my life where I shouldn’t? Am I hurting other people around me by doing it?
If you put some deep thought into then I surely believe that you will start to change those “habits” you have been doing!
I will always believe that being competitive is an advantage over others if you manage to control it and learn from it.
When that happens you will be on your way to becoming a better and more self-aware human being!
Much love to every single one of you!
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Originally published on The Ascent
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