In a relationship, many women think that what a man wants is purely physical satisfaction.
So the reason for a man’s derailment is attributed to sex, the wrong method and the wrong force are used, but they forget that men actually have deeper emotional needs.
In fact, the strongest “desire” of a man is not in the bed, but in these three places.
01 Affirmation from your mouth
No matter what age a man is, he is a child who has not grown up at heart. No matter how tough his appearance is, he longs to be praised and affirmed in his heart.
If you want a man to listen to you obediently and pay for you, you should be sweeter and give him more appreciation and praise.
Because men often take self-esteem and face very seriously, and only by taking care of this, will he completely give up on you.
Don’t always deny him, even if you say it casually, or your starting point is good, once a man’s self-esteem is hurt, his feelings for you may change quietly.
When he works hard for you and achieves results, his heart will be like a rewarding child. A seemingly ordinary compliment will make him satisfied and work harder.
A woman, as long as she can grasp a man’s self-esteem and make him feel that he is valuable, has a sense of existence, and is emotionally satisfied with you, he will naturally become more and more inseparable from you.
02 Your concern
The fragility of a man will always be buried in the deepest part of his heart, but no matter how strong a man is, there will be times when he is sad and vulnerable and needs to be cared for.
Women, you must know how to observe words and expressions, and learn to distinguish the truest state of your other half’s heart.
Especially when he is in a low mood and falls into a trough, the care and concern in your eyes is the best comfort for him.
Even if you can’t help him solve practical problems, at least he won’t be so alone with two people.
There is no need to ask too much, just silent company, a look, a hug, can let him remove the disguise, relieve the pressure, and be the most authentic self.
And this kind of concern is what a man’s soul seeks and desires.
If you always don’t pay enough attention to him and don’t care, making him feel that he is ignored and has no one to talk to, he may go to other women for comfort, and extramarital affairs will come from this.
However, a smart woman will never give others such an opportunity to take advantage of it.
03 Your understanding
“In one’s life, encountering love and encountering sex is not uncommon, but understanding is rare.”
In fact, no matter a man or a woman, what he desires most in his heart is to have someone who understands himself.
What a man wants is someone who can resonate with him, respect him, and support him, not a nanny who only takes care of his daily life.
If you can’t understand his choice and respect his development, then no matter how much you pay, in the end, he may still leave you and go to someone else.
In a relationship, the most important thing is the tacit understanding between two people, as well as the communication of hearts.
In the face of wind and rain, being able to help each other, support each other, and give each other tolerance and compassion will make men love you more and cherish you.
Whether a relationship can go on for a long time is not only a test of love, but also the wisdom of getting along.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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