Signs You Are Falling Out of Love

You do not look forward to spending time with them

If you are growing apart and no longer enjoy spending time together with your friend, you may be falling out of love. Distance, in any relationship, is healthy. Still, if that distance has turned into you continuously canceling plans and dreading any possible meetups, you must take a step back and face your feelings.

It is okay to fall out of love; there is nothing to feel bad about. Instead, sit with yourself and analyze the reason behind your growing apart. Ensure that your feelings change does not stem from personal fear or insecurity. Having clarity will save you from second-guessing your decision in the future.

You criticize them

When we no longer feel attracted to someone, even in a platonic manner, their imperfection begins to stand out. Our minds start to ignore the good about them, and criticism takes precedence. Instead of being emotionally intelligent about expressing your discomfort and dealing with disagreements healthily, you resort to criticism and contempt for addressing every single issue.

Constant criticism implies that you are beginning to lose respect for your partner, which is a killer for the relationship because care is more important than love. If you no longer respect the same person, you may be falling out of love.

Replying to them feels like an extra effort

John Gottman says, ‘Love is a never-ending conversation.’ Relationships require effort and maintenance. They need regular nurturing. All healthy, long-lasting relationships are built on a solid foundation of healthy communication.

If you no longer want to text or call your friend and doing so feels like an extra effort (burden), it is a sign that you may fall out of love. Moreover, when an issue arises, you find it easier to gossip with other people about it rather than confronting your friend directly. All the effort that goes into confrontation feels too much to you. In such a scenario, you need to re-evaluate your friendship.

You do not care about them anymore.

The purpose of relationships is not to make you happy but to help you grow. If you no longer feel emotions of care and support for your friends, you may have fallen out of love with them.

When we love someone, we want to see them grow. So we support their goals and dreams and reassure them of their potential when they fail. However, when you fall out of love, you feel that the other person deserves that outcome and do not feel like taking the responsibility of being there for them.

You must not take this sign as a blanket proof of your feelings but know that it is one of the signs of falling out of love with someone. This, combined with the signs mentioned above, implies that you no longer love the person you once did.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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