Stop being always available to people who are just there for you when it is convenient for them.
I saw this quote on Instagram and this triggered me.
I categorize myself as a kind person, a social butterfly.
I am the one who checks on my friends, invites them to go out, and encourages them to enjoy life.
I daily have a regular ritual of sending a good morning message to close friends, and hey how are you to my bestie, checking on a friend who told me he was sick.
I give so much energy to doing this. And I honestly do it with no expectations, I just do it without thinking.
Until I started seeing these kinds of posts on Instagram and I always ignored them, but I believed in signs, so I took them seriously.
I am putting people before myself. I care about them more than I care about myself. A sad fact that I learned it the hard way.
I stopped to start messages to people or checking on them. In the beginning, my mind manipulated me that this was not me and it was not kind. I used to be caring, and I was not faking it. I really cared.
As expected, no contact from them. As sad as it looks, it was.
This was so disrespectful. I tried not to take it personally, but it was.
The moral of the story is, if mutual care is not served, it’s time to leave.
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