Men and women can have different ways of thinking (like all thinking individuals!), so their understanding of love is often different.
For example, men are often more simple and direct, while women may be more eager for a sense of ritual and atmosphere.
Such differences can inevitably cause some trouble in the love life of both parties.
If you want to see if a man loves you, you might want to not worry about superficial things.
Some men, although they appear to be unemotional on the surface, actually love their partner very deeply.
01 Allow you your own free will
Some people always say that if a man loves you, he will make you do whatever you want.
But clearly, such a man is controlling, irresponsible and doesn’t really love you.
When two people are together, they need to allow each other to be their own independent person.
Some men may seem like they don’t care about you, but they are really allowing you the space to live the life you want to live. The absence of controlling behaviors is a sign of love.
02 keep silent when arguing
The way a man acts during and after the quarrel can indeed show how much he values this relationship.
Men who do not attach great importance to feelings tend to go to two extremes.
Either he gets excited as soon as he quarrels, wishing he could overwhelm you with every sound, and he won’t give up until you cry out.
Or he might just choose the cold war, keep silent from beginning to end, he will not go down the steps you give him.
But men who value their partners feelings will continue to talk calmly, will know when to compromise, and will check in with their partners feelings.
Perhaps being silent in an argument is a person taking the time to reflect on the best path forward for both people.
It’s not because he’s running away, but because he knows in his heart that you are angry at this moment, and the more he says something, the more things can escalate. So silence is the best option to get things to a place where both partners can discuss calmly what is going on.
Maybe one person needs time to vent and and the other person It’s time to explain, to apologize, and with a few words, he will be able to coax you right away.
Husbands and wives are not enemies, and quarrels are not for the sake of competition. As long as conflicts can be resolved quickly, they will naturally be reconciled.
03 Always encourage you to grow
In this world, the most reliable person is only yourself.
No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, women should not forget to grow up.
After all, relying too much on one’s partner is not a good thing.
A man who loves you will not blindly treat you as a child, he will surely spur you to grow, expand, try new things, plan for the future and find new paths to happiness from time to time.
He will encourage you to experience new things, learn various skills and abilities, and make yourself more and more competitive.
Maybe sometimes, you will resist change or growth. A man who loves you understands the ways to encourage you without trying to control you or force you to do things you don’t want to do.
We all know in our hearts that the best way for a relationship to last long is for husband and wife to keep growing together.
If one day, the gap between you and him becomes bigger and bigger, then your marriage will become more and more dangerous.
Therefore, it is a very lucky thing to have a man by your side who is willing to spur you to grow together.
As long as your partner wants you to be well, as long as you are both looking out for each others interests as well as your own, then your relationship can last for a long time.
Such a man must be cherished.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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