What does the typical woman look for in an affair partner?
Sex boi or marry material?
A little of both? Or one or the other? Love or sex?
Most ladies would say we want, at minimum, romance and caring. Cheating women have voids to fill. And not just their pussies. Smart guys know how to leverage this knowledge.
They say the right things to get into your panties.
“You deserve some romance.”
“I’ll take care of you…”
“I know what you need.”
The “boyfriend” experience. The “I don’t know what I’m looking for” ladies want attention. I’m not knocking it, but they can be time wasters. Looky-loo’s. Squeezing the Charmin, but never going through the checkout.
Or they can legitimately be looking for their illicit Prince Charming.
What do you think married women look for in an affair partner?
AT MINIMUM:
- To be treated like a human being
- A friend
- A connection
- Good fucking sex
We are cheating, yes, but be respectful to your lover — or find a hooker instead. If you have too much guilt, keep your dick in your pants (I’ve written treatises on Guilt Kings). Don’t feed us emotions, profess love, and then act as if you have no feelings.
AT MAXIMUM:
- Love
- Someone who won’t neglect me as my husband has
- Someone I deeply connect with, and it’s mutual
- Intimacy on every possible level
Some of us are lucky enough to get all of this with an affair partner. Others may want only pieces of the adultery puzzle. Different women in different circumstances want different things.
There is no “right” way.
It also varies with time into our “cheating careers.” I started with just wanting hot sex since I was coming from a very dead bedroom. I then came to realize that everything was missing at home. I didn’t have the type of marriage that fulfilled me on any level — emotionally or, physically, or intellectually. I needed everything, after all.
One man on Reddit wrote, “That said. In my opinion and experience, it’s hard to tell what women want in an AP because there is a huge variety of reasons why they cheat.
I’ve been with married women who just wanted sex because hubby had health issues. Others wanted basically a committed relationship with me. Despite being married.
Others wanted to just fuck a bunch of guys and girls because they married young and felt sexually repressed.
Some, it’s just about feeling wanted. They don‘t even want sex, just someone to talk to them and make them feel like they are human.
The best advice I can give is to do what your particular lady wants, give her what she needs, and you’ll get what you want.”
It’s true.
Men who pay attention and listen win at this affair “game.”
We all cheat for different reasons. We look for varying things in a lover. It could be a fuck boi or a future husband. A little of both, usually.
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- Subscribe to The Scarlett Letter — it’s much more fun with the sinners. Billy Joel was right. Only the good die young.
- And to [email protected] because it’s free and I’m so bad, I’m good.
- Plus, help a lady adulteress out: Ko-fi/monalisasmiled or [email protected]
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