Sarah Jones says that if you’re an introverted man, you’re naturally dispositioned to be an excellent lover. Here are five reasons why.
Popular culture has it that extraverted men have an advantage when it comes to attraction and sexual chemistry.
The truth is they do. At least, in their own way. Gregariousness and outgoingness are two solid advantages that can spark women’s attraction.
At the same time, introverted men have five distinct advantages all their own that make them amazing lovers. I’ve found that most of my clients initially have no idea what these advantages are, much less how to use them.
If you’re an introverted man, you are about to learn what makes you naturally dispositioned to be awesome in bed. This applies to you even if you’ve not thought of yourself that way before and even if you have very little experience with women in the past.
Here are five reasons your introverted disposition, when well-attended and well-cultivated, gives you an edge as a lover.
1. Your slow, gentle pace engenders trust and creates intrigue.
Women are used to men rushing things in bed (and well before bed, too). If you can slow down, which you have a special way of doing as an introvert, then she’s going to feel like she can trust you.
Unlike many other men, you’re not rushing things. Because of this, she experiences you as naturally confident and at ease in your own skin.
Not only does this engender trust, it creates sexy intrigue. As you escalate in a gentle steady way, she’s wondering when and if you’ll go to the next step, and then the next.
This is irresistible to her because as a woman, her body is turned on over a more gradual period. When you take your time, she can luxuriate in getting fully turned on by you.
2. Your awareness of your own body helps her relax.
Men are often nervous without even noticing how that nervousness impacts their own body, much less hers. As an introvert, you are naturally introspective and self-aware, so nervousness is not likely to go undetected.
You notice it, and when you’re well-skilled – you are able to let that nervousness melt away so that all that’s left is relaxed excitement. When you get really good at this, which you’re naturally predisposed to do, you and she are both in bliss.
3. Your empathy towards her body turns her on.
Your introspective nature is not only helpful when it comes to reading your own internal environment; it is also helpful in reading her body and responsiveness to you.
While every woman has her own personal expression of turn-on, you’re able to see a layer deeper into what’s actually going on chemistry-wise.
Rather than sifting through unreliable surface signs of turn-on from her like twirling hair or downcast eyes, your intuitive nature clues you in to what is actually happening.
Underneath potential surface indications of interest, you notice the palpable feeling of attraction between you. You can feel her responding to your touch, melting into you a little bit…
Being able to read her body like this means she can follow you utterly and completely in the interaction. As long as you know what you’re looking for and take the time to notice, you are effortlessly good at it.
4. Your attention towards the environment is impressive.
When it comes to setting the mood and context in the most optimal way, you notice subtleties that others might miss.
Subdued lighting, chill music, and closed curtains all contribute to a sexy mood. Because you notice these details, you can create a magical environment for her where she can relax completely with you. She can trust you.
The environment seems so simple, and yet it really makes you so much more attractive to her when you’re aware of your surroundings. The fact that you’ve got things handled helps her rest on a primal level and open to you more.
If you notice and adjust something that she may have missed, like the lighting, even better.
5. Your patient attitude towards learning makes things fun.
As an intellectual introvert, the more you know, the more you know that you don’t know. Because of the way your mind works, you relish this. Since you love to learn, you approach bumps in the road of attraction with dignity and finesse.
Rather than viewing a challenge as an indication you’re not good enough, you’re curious about how to develop as a man and a lover in that moment.
This puts your lady at ease because there’s no pressure, just opportunities for each of you to get to know yourselves and each other better. It’s all wonderful, and it’s all play.
In conclusion, you’re a natural.
Overall, your introverted nature gives you an advantage when it comes to turning on a woman: your pace, your body, her body, the environment, and the process.
Like in Aikido or micro-blues partner dancing, the most aware and relaxed man wins. He wins pleasure, his woman’s turn-on, and the opportunity to become a continually more extraordinary lover.
If you are an introverted man who hasn’t yet become fully proficient at the above, know that the seedling is in you. It just is. In my experience, you guys are always – ALWAYS – closer than you think you are.
You can start by considering which of the above five advantages you’d like to hone next, and then find a fun way to start developing it more.
Sarah Jones helps smart introverted men attract women naturally. Learn more and get her free gifts at IntrovertedAlpha.com.
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