Women Who Know How to “Take” Are the Ones Men Can’t Get Enough Of

John said, “True love between a man and a woman isn’t achieved through physical or mental connection alone. It only happens when their spirits and bodies merge.”

When a woman falls in love, she naturally wants to completely capture a man’s heart. She wants him to be devoted to her, to be obsessed with her. To achieve this, simply wishing for it isn’t enough. Women need to learn how to conquer a man’s heart.

The biggest difference between smart women and foolish women when it comes to love is the way they approach it.

Some women will love with reckless abandon, dedicating themselves to a man, letting him know their feelings. They think that if they do enough, they’ll be the best woman in his eyes, and he’ll never leave.

But unknowingly, this thinking and behavior only backfires. The more a woman gives, the more a man feels entitled to it. He thinks he’s the truly great one, not her.

Michel de Montaigne said, “Whoever loves according to rules will never be loved.”

You think love is always selfless? Actually, truly good love is a combination of selfishness and selflessness. Only by mastering this balance can you hold onto someone’s heart and protect your own love.

Women who know how to “take” are the ones men can’t get enough of.

Demand that he only has eyes for you

Friedrich Schiller said, “True love is exclusive. The realm of love is extremely small; it’s so small it can only hold two people. If you love several people at the same time, it can’t be called love; it’s just a game of feelings.”

When you truly love someone, you can’t stand the thought of them having feelings for anyone else. The more you love him, the more you want to possess his whole heart. Even if he just glances at another woman, you get jealous.

In love, women don’t need to be magnanimous. You don’t have to tell him you understand and trust him when he’s with other women. Otherwise, over time, he’ll think you don’t care and feel free to get away with more. Then when you start to doubt him, you’ll be the one suffering.

If you want to hold onto your love, you need to make it clear that you expect him to only have eyes for you. Only by sticking to your principles will a man think of you and cherish you.

Demand that he cares and shows it

Sir Walter Scott said, “Love mixed with tears is the most moving.”

Unfortunately, many women don’t understand this. Some women don’t want their men to see their vulnerability. Often, even when they’re feeling down, they won’t tell their man. They’ll face it alone, afraid he’ll get tired of seeing them like that.

But actually, men are most susceptible to women’s tears and vulnerability. Imagine two women: one is incredibly strong and never cries in front of her man. The other knows how to show weakness and use tears to soften his heart.

Which woman is more likely to get her man’s care and attention? The answer is obvious: the woman who knows how to show weakness and use tears to charm her man.

Women who know how to show weakness are more likely to make a man want to protect them. So, if you want a man to be obsessed with you, you need to know how to demand his care and attention.

Demand that he puts in the effort

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Love, in its essence, is the reflection of one’s own value in another.”

If you want to know if a man truly loves you, see what value you have to him. The most direct way is to see if he’s willing to put in the effort for you, to spend his time and money on you. Does he think about you often? Does he consider your feelings?

If you want him to be obsessed with you, he needs to be willing to put in the effort for you. For example, he’s willing to do things for you, to spend his money and time on you. He’s willing to turn down other people for you.

Some women, to keep a man, become understanding and forgiving. When a man wants to do something for her, she says she doesn’t want him to work so hard. When he gives her gifts and surprises, she says she doesn’t want him to spend so much, that his love is enough.

She thinks this will keep him, but unknowingly, when he doesn’t have to put in any effort, his love will fade until it’s gone.

Smart women know how to demand a man’s effort. This kind of “taking” will keep him thinking about her, keep him obsessed.

Plato said, “When love taps you on the shoulder, even men who usually disdain poetry and art become poets.”

Love needs two people to work hard and nurture it in the best way possible. Once you become lazy in love, it won’t be long before your laziness comes back to haunt you.

Smart women know how to use “taking” to keep their love fresh. Only women who know how to take can make a man thoughtful and truly act out his love, not just say sweet words.

A woman who knows how to “take” will make a man even more obsessed with her.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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