We learn this from fairy tales where the prince and princess live “happily ever after”.
Although there’s nothing wrong with naive love, these love stories don’t tell us what really happens after “happily ever after”.
In addition to fairy tale expectations about love, “over-thinking” relationships (honed in school and the workplace) and dragging adolescent relationship beliefs from the past into adulthood, cloud our approach to love.
The successful woman’s struggle is how her logic-based approach to finding a soul-mate means she rationalizes love rather than feel it.
Breaking free from the confines of rational thought and reconnecting with our heart opens the possibility to create a lasting and loving relationship.
When you ditch the fairy tale and create your own story of true love, a fresh solution takes place by relaxing your mind and getting in touch with your heart.
There are 5 steps to creating your own true love story, and each moves you in the direction of love with greater joy and ease. A good place to start is by:
Listen to your feelings and let them guide you. Relaxing your mind will help you get in touch with your feelings. Notice how you’re feeling inside when you’re making a decision. If you feel good about something or feel expanded, it’s a sign to move forward. If something isn’t feeling right or you feel contracted, it’s a sign to wait or not to move forward.
2. Uncovering your limiting beliefs.
Ask yourself, “What are the thoughts and beliefs that come up repeatedly in all of my love relationships? Identify the limiting beliefs that are not supporting you in finding your ideal love relationship. Then replace them with supportive thoughts that can create and sustain the true love you desire.
3. Taking action from a place of clarity.
When it comes to love, clarity comes from your heart. Identify what’s most important for you to have in a partner and relationship. Ask yourself, “When my love life is ideal, I am …” If you find yourself analyzing, justifying or defending your responses, this means you’re taking a mind-centered approach. Clear your mind and let the answers come from your heart. Once you get crystal clear, you can take inspired action and let love come to you.
4. Taking radical responsibility.
Take radical responsibility and notice how it transforms your love life. This means looking at the situation, owning your part of it and taking integrity-based action to resolve things in a way that’s in the best interest of your relationship. Taking radical responsibility brings you a greater level of self confidence, a deeper connection with your partner and empowers you to shape your ideal love life.
5. Understanding that you are the answer.
You have the power to create your own love story. When practicing these solutions, you’ll find that real life is better than “happily ever after” — it’s deeper, more dimensional and provides opportunities to learn and grow. You’ll feel more confident, certain and able to create true and lasting love with ease.
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